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suckstobeme (original poster member #30853) posted at 1:05 AM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
He's such an ass clown. Seriously.
I found out he's told the kids that he still loves me but isn't IN love with me. He's even saying it to the kids??
My DS asked how that made me feel and I told him it means nothing to me. I told him that I don't know or love your dad anymore. I talk to him about you when I need to and we don't fight, but I don't know him anymore and don't consider him a friend.
Talk about confusing kids that are already hurt and confused. He's wants to just skate out of this scot- free and make it oh so seamless to just demolish a family.
Well Fuck That GUY. My kids think he's an asshole for leaving us and choosing to toss their mother away like a piece of trash. They know what he did hurt everyone else and we get to live with the pain while he gets to just walk away.
Dickhead.
BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 2:00 AM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
The next thing he'll be saying is he wants to be friends.You know, so he looks like the good guy.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 11:23 AM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
Fuck....That.....Guy.....
All of it is to put him in the best possible light.
Dontcha know 'love' is all you need?
Doesn't matter is someone has abused you, smashed your world apart and put you through one of the most painful experiences there are. He still loves you so that means he can be forgiven and all will be forgotten.
I completely expect the same romanticised bullshit. My girls may even believe him and have empathy for a time but I'm guessing they'll see exactly what this is once they are wives and mothers themselves.
I don't know about you but I no longer feel like he demolished my family. My little family was lost for a while whilst I was in that M but the 3 of us are now so much more intact than we ever were with that joy-killing 4th member.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 5:21 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
FTG is right. My XWH#1 still tells me he loves me. We have been D'd for 10yrs and I am remarried. He knows he screwed up, but he is no longer my problem. If he loved me he wouldn't have continued to have a GF while married to me. 
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
sleepless34 ( member #40274) posted at 7:08 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
Seriously....why why why does he feel the need to discuss that with the kids (not sure how old they are...but really?)
That is really teaching them a lesson- a bad lesson- about how to treat people, about marriage, about loyalty. What a F**Ker.
I am sorry! If it makes you feel any better, mine told my 8 yo that "he made a mistake that mommy didn't like." Seriously, these cowards will do or say anything not to look bad or take any responsibility. I am not even mad about it, I pity that emotional F**tard.
Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...
Housefulloflove ( member #38458) posted at 7:29 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
My little family was lost for a while whilst I was in that M but the 3 of us are now so much more intact than we ever were with that joy-killing 4th member
Amen! I can say the same only we're a family of 4 without a joy-killing 5th!
F.T. Big Dummy! WHY doesn't he have enough sense to know that he shouldn't say those things to his children? People that dysfunctional should be locked away so they can't hurt anyone else. Telling a child that you're not in love with their parent anymore is so fucking unnecessary and hurtful.
Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 9:13 PM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013
AYFKM?
He actually said "I-love-your-mother-but-I-am-not-IN-LOVE-with-your-mother"????????
Oh HELL no!!
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
suckstobeme (original poster member #30853) posted at 9:18 PM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013
That's my understanding. My 10 year old DS wouldn't have come up with that on his own. I don't even know what the hell that really means, there's no way he would get it.
I try to be as truthful as I can about my feelings without demolishing their relationship with him. I'd rather he do that all by himself.
It just pisses me off that he's still using this bullshit line and is now using it on my kids. I feel like telling him to just please say it. Just tell them why you left amd who you left for. If he was so proud of his actions and his choice, you would think he just would get it over with and move on with the Brady bunch charade.
But no. He's gonna be a coward to the end.
BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 1:34 PM on Friday, September 27th, 2013
He's gonna be a coward to the end.
Obviously.
Who the FUCK says that to a kid? Most ADULTS are confused by ILYBINILWY, which in my opinion, is the STUPIDEST thing you can say. It makes absolutely no sense!
FuckThatGuy times one million. Fuck him and his batshit crazy OW.
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
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