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Lonelygirl10 (original poster member #39850) posted at 5:22 PM on Tuesday, October 1st, 2013
My wBF and I had a really serious talk last night about everything. It's the most honest I've been about my doubts and feelings.
Today I woke up to alot of really sweet messages. He hasn't talked to me like this since before Dday. And then he sent me an email of a counselor he found to ask if the guy looked ok to me. I replied yes, and he's already set up the appointment for Saturday!
I feel like he's taking control, and it's like a huge burden has been lifted off my chest. Actually feeling hopeful.
We are going to try both MC (communication issues) and IC (A issues) with the same person. It's a male counselor, which I have mixed feelings about. I feel a little uncomfortable talking to a guy about sex, but wBF feels more comfortable with it. I have my own IC, so I want to focus more on what makes him comfortable. The guy is a certified marriage counselor.
Are there any questions we should ask on the first appointment to make sure he's right for us?
Dallas2 ( member #28362) posted at 6:04 PM on Tuesday, October 1st, 2013
Glad to hear things are going so well for you.
I think I would ask if they were in a relationship and a partner strayed what would they do. We had a MC who would D or leave right away. I don't think this person was the right MC. Ask any other questions that you feel are important. Sometimes you can tell the first visit and sometimes it takes a couple of times to decide.
Good luck
Camalus ( member #40199) posted at 7:03 PM on Tuesday, October 1st, 2013
There is a great post with question to ask a potential MC.
It is buried and I didn't see it until someone pointed it out.
Hope this helps:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/healing_library/reconciliation/choosing_therapist.asp
Me–BS age 61
Her -- WS age 59
Married for 34 years
One child, 30yrs
Her 'A' 1994(?) through 1998
D-Day 7/4/2013 Yes, I didn't find out for almost 15 years... but the pain is just as bad as if she were with him last week.
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