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Bravenewgirl (original poster member #36267) posted at 10:31 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2013
I am so sick of trying to figure out wtf is wrong with WH. He has traits of about 109990 different personality disorders. So I am done with dissecting him, done with the books, all of it.
My new catchall diagnosis: He is a fucking asshole.
Simple. And probably incurable.
FTG!!
Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty
Kalliopeia ( member #35053) posted at 10:32 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2013
it's gone viral.
mine has the disorder, too!
wert ( member #34478) posted at 10:42 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2013
The best subject line ever. Period.
HurtsButImOK ( member #38865) posted at 10:47 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2013
At the end of the day I think for myself it would make it easier to be able to stick X with a convenient label.
Truthfully X is just a garden variety asshole. I do believe that asseholitis is incurable.
I still read up on 'labels' to arm myself and help me move forward though. I have accepted that it is not my job to cure him. That's his current whore's job
Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore
"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou
TheAmazingWondertwin ( member #40769) posted at 11:08 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2013
I'm a little bitter today so I would just like to say..
Isn't just GREAT how the WS Is all happy and relieved now that the stress of lying is over? I'm soooo glad that I get to work in healing him now too. Fabulous. I love my H and am happy we are trying to move forward. But really? Could he just stop looking so effing pleased that he's "finding himself now?"
Yeesh.
Just call me Wonder
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.
Divorced and super good with tha
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
DDay 2- June something or other 2017
Kalliopeia ( member #35053) posted at 11:23 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2013
finding himself? how many rocks has he already looked under..
missyb32641 ( member #35656) posted at 12:55 AM on Saturday, October 5th, 2013
ME: BS 43
Him FWH 45
Married 20 years together 22 at the time.
Working thru R.
emotionalgirl ( member #40184) posted at 1:11 AM on Saturday, October 5th, 2013
I wish they would just put a like button at the bottom of posts, just like on face book. I would have hit that thing a few times by now!
1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R
Getting to Happy ( member #35200) posted at 3:33 AM on Saturday, October 5th, 2013
Sounds like your going to need an "ASSHOLE-ECTOMY"...
Hang in there Bravenewgirl!
With your strength and humor your going to make it!!
WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
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Bravenewgirl (original poster member #36267) posted at 10:50 AM on Monday, October 7th, 2013
Thanks guys.
This has actually been really freeing to me. I was spending shitloads of mental energy trying to figure him out, and understand him better, making excuses (oh, he is a cheating fucktard because he was not breastfed for long enough...blah blah blah, etc etc)
Now its like:
Q: Why would he forget to text when he promised he would?
A. Asshole.
Q: Why won't he say I love you more often like I need him to?
A. Asshole.
Q. Why does he spend more energy protecting OWs feelings than mine?
A. Asshole.
Q: Why wont't he read the books I want him to?
A. Asshole.
Q. Why did he cheat on me for two years?
A. GIANT MEGATRONIC ASSHOLE.
I have concluded that whatever the hell happened to WH in his childhood, it does not give him a green light to treat me like crap.
EFFF TEE GEEE!
Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty
topperoff22 ( member #40762) posted at 11:15 AM on Monday, October 7th, 2013
My husband caught it too only add emotionally blackmailing asshole to mine. 
BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month
Phoenix9572 ( member #39987) posted at 12:21 PM on Monday, October 7th, 2013
One of the last gifts I gave to my stbx was monogrammed. The way his initials fell on the item I renamed him Real Asshole Extraordinaire. 
Must be a common disease that affects WS.
Me - 40
WH - 42
Married 18 years
kids - 14, 12
DD - May 13, 2013
DD2 - Aug 4, 2013
DD3 - Aug 27, 2013
Status - Legally separated; really wanted R but don't think that is possible anymore
Marathonwaseasy ( member #40674) posted at 12:33 PM on Monday, October 7th, 2013
Love this
My husband has bipolar which means he has a harder job that others and is sick and all that crap which means I have to be supportive as I already have traumatised kids who have dealt with suicide attempts and the police turning up at the door when he's gone AWOL
But bipolar is not the only diagnosis
He too is an asshole
Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...
"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."
2oldforthis ( member #19825) posted at 12:45 PM on Monday, October 7th, 2013
Thank you for this post. I also have spent way to much time and energy on trying to figure WS out also, I love your thinking, I think I am going to take that same diagnosis and stop wasting my time.
Thanks!
He did not see what he had in me, what I saw in him I did not have!
Love kills slowly.
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