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Tripletrouble (original poster member #39169) posted at 10:11 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
We cross all demographics. Appearance is meaningless. We span the globe. We are compassionate - offering hope, advice, kindness, and understanding to people we've never met. We are resilient - weather facing R or facing D, they both require the courage of lions. We are funny - even in the throes of heartache, I get a good laugh almost every time I read here. We are pretty stinkin awesome. So thanks SI community, you are the best 41,000 friends I could ask for 
This is my positive thought for the week. I'll be back tomorrow, crying and frustrated 
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 10:12 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
I agree. We have an amazing group of members here. 
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Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 10:12 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
Thefly559 ( member #40268) posted at 10:14 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Ditto. And ditto to the last part too
"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 10:34 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Without a doubt we have the very best members out there!! Compassionate, smart, loving, funny and some of the most colorful words I've ever read 
We (Staff) appreciate each and every one of you!!
I've said it over and over in the past...but it's true.
My mother always said a party is only as good as the people that show up.
Well, look around...we are surrounded by great people
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
SurelyNOT ( member #40617) posted at 10:35 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
LOVE your Post. Can completely relate to everything you said.
Here's hoping tomorrow is a good day for all of us, and the next, and the next ... ... It's an uphill battle with many twists, turns and stumbling blocks - and it sure is a journey I never anticipated. Good luck to us ALL
simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 11:07 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Fantastic post! They're are a lot of amazing people here.
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
fourever ( member #30631) posted at 11:09 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Indeed! 
In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 11:14 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
TheAmazingWondertwin ( member #40769) posted at 11:21 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Love this post and thank you for saying it.
Knowing I have a place to come that's full of honest good wishes and the occasional 2 x 4 ( also given with good wishes).
Word cannot express my gratitude for ALL of you.
(((SI community)))
Just call me Wonder
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.
Divorced and super good with tha
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
DDay 2- June something or other 2017
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 11:22 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 11:35 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Good post. I totally agree!
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
neverdidithink ( member #40568) posted at 12:06 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
Great post, TT!
While I'd certainly rather have met you all under different circumstances, I'm so very grateful to have found such a warm, welcoming community. That so many people in so much pain can be this compassionate is truly amazing.
My eternal gratitude to all who share here and to the founders and mods who make this place so special. I hope you understand what a difference you've made in so many lives.
BS, 57
M 13 years
second marriage, second WH
4 kids in their 20s
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 1:33 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
This really is a terrific community.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 1:56 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 2:01 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
Yep. Such a wonderful group.
I'm sorry for our circumstances, but so glad to have this group to support me.
I didn't find SI until after my D was final, but I really didn't begin to take control of my destiny until I came here.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
surviving1963 ( member #40393) posted at 2:03 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
So grateful to each and every one of you. Your stories, courage, feelings, advice, etc. etc. are an inspiration
Me: 54
WH: 54
Married 34 years.
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12
4 sons, 3 daughters
9 grandkids
D final Oct 2015
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:10 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:17 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
Oh hell yeah.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
thecosmogirl ( member #39707) posted at 4:36 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
Wonderful post!!!
I'm no where near where I want to be but I am that much closer because of this place :-))
Me: BS
Him: doesn't matter anymore
D-day 14 June 2013
I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!
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