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Euphonasia (original poster new member #39285) posted at 4:27 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013
After finding out about posting on Craigslist for sex with transgendered men in February, a physical affair in April (when he was supposed to be taking care of his parents....he screwed her in their home while they were at the hospital), him false R with me, quitting his job to continue his affair, and me finding out at work when his AP called me (and used the word whore in regards to me) He finally left in July when I was in vacation (and stole my car in the process....I got it back btw) with thee dogs, a godson, and a bunch of his bills, he messaged me today in order to ask me to pay for his portion of the divorce and he would pay me back later. Yeah right. I do fine most days, but I just feel like I am battling so hard. I am lonely, miserable, and depressed. I don't know how to fix it. There are times when I sit in the local convenience store just to have someone to talk to or even pretend to be around people. I don't want him back, but I have no family down here and I am so miserable. How do you tolerate it? How do you make it through the day? How does it not drag you down every day? Any advice is fantastic and appreciated. 
"When I die, hallelujah bye and bye, I'll fly away."
Multiple D-days, divorcing
whiteflower99 ( member #13937) posted at 4:34 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013
Huge hugs
Someone else in jfo posted you have 40,000 New friends here.
But I get what you mean. It has to get better tho.
What are you pretending not to know?
me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way.
iwillNOT ( member #40605) posted at 6:12 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013
((huge))
Please don't pay for his portion of the divorce...
Sounds like you are feeling really isolated and in pain right now. I would advise that you actually write out a schedule for your day and follow it, to give you some structure and a feeling of accomplishment. Nothing ambitious or achievement oriented, just something like
8 am wake, shower, eat, coffee
9 walk dogs
10 read 2 chapters of a good book or Call family for a chat
Etc, etc
Also get out around people! Check your local library bulletin boards for book clubs, walking groups, community events. Volunteer at the library, animal shelter, or help hand out food at local food pantries. Lead a girl scout troop? Get a coffee at the local bookstore and read and soak in the atmosphere. Take a community education class on basket weaving or pasta making or hula hooping lol! Just - keep busy and get out and start to feel a little normal again.
Boy, that was a ton of suggestions. I kind of think I was giving my own self some advice lol. Well, let's both do it then!
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
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