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OMG you guys. It is 4:30 in the morning. I just got up to pee & looked at my phone. Remember my husband's ex - the one he was chatting with during the year from hell (2012)? The one who sent me a Linked In connection request? I had just about decided to believe that was some fluke, that she had some sort of setting that automatically sent out requests to anyone in her extended network or whatever. Um. That bitch sent me a Facebook friend request. Two hours ago. So at 2:30 on Monday morning she sent me a friend request. What the everloving FUCK is her deal? I have never met her. She is blocked off my husband's page. My heart is pounding and my adrenalin is up! What the hell???? I just grabbed my husband's phone and scoured it. Nothing in there from her. I honestly don't believe they've been in contact. I just think she's a fucking inappropriate nut. I'm attempting to NOT send her a message until I calm down.

If it isn't too late, don't message her. Don't do anything except not accept the friend request.

I think she is fishing. She can't get to him, so she's trying to get to him through you.

Ignoring her will be more effective in pissing her off.

(((Jana)))

Thanks Raven.

I'm calmer now - although I'm a little mad that my sleep got messed up.

I feel like we've constructed this snug little house now, with my H, me, and Baby Green, and here she is outside with a crowbar trying to pry off a board so she can peek inside.

She was never an affair partner but still. Ugh. Inappropriate.

Crickets Jana but take a screen shot of the request just in case you ever need a 'cease and desist' letter sending out as this will be evidence!

What is wrong with these women?

Ohhh good call on the screenshot.

So there is no way that sending a message is a good move, right?

I am avoiding any action (other than changing my profile to a pic of me & my H) until I am completely calm. That hasn't happened yet.

Don't give her the satisfaction of any kind of acknowledgment from you. She doesn't care what you think or that any missive from her upsets you. Ignore her. She's not worth it. Ignoring her will frustrate her more than anything you could write back to her. WHY are these skanks so desperate as to go after married men ? They must have zero pride in themselves. It stinks. THEY stink.

My brain has some select things bubbling around for a good response to her, but as we all know the best response is crickets. (PS - Do you have a picture of you and H kissing. That would make an even BETTER profile pic.)

I'm glad you posted this in General so I can say that she is a dumb hooker.

She was probably drunk, JG.

Delete or ignore or whatever the heck you do when you don't want someone to be your 'friend'. And don't change your page at all.

Ignore. *crickets*. "Move along, lunatic, nothing to see here".......

So hard not to respond but that is best.

Just to get it out...What would you like to say to this virtual peeping Tomi?

Would it help to unload here instead of responding to her fishing attempt?

Well, I don't want to violate the terms of this site, but I will say that I doubt she was drunk due to her belief system, which she plasters all over her FB page. It seems like someone who is all about said belief system would also believe that she should not try to tear asunder a marriage, but maybe she doesn't see it that way.

She's either really stupid, completely nuts, or totally conniving. I know nothing physical happened between them, and maybe she sees their little friendship rekindling as innocent, although I'm sure she was hoping for more after the divorce was final. What she doesn't realize is that she was one of many women he was talking to at the time. She IS the only one who's tried to butt into my life twice since, though.

Just ignore her. That is the best thing to do. If you ignore the drama llama she will eventually go away. I know it is hard to do, but it is for the best.

I just can't get over the fact that she is FORTY THREE YEARS OLD and doing this. Gah.

Sorry...tried to edit a typo and accidentally double-posted.

[This message edited by Raven96 at 8:19 AM, October 29th (Tuesday)]

Her age doesn't matter, although it should.

I know it is SO HARD not to respond, but silence will speak volumes! I made the mistake of emailing WH/AP's secret email from my own email account saying that she can have my WH, that if she wants my life so bad she can have it. She didn't respond (it was supposedly over by then), and to this day I regret doing that, because I feel like I gave her the upperhand. In my defense, I didn't know about this site yet, and I really was ready to hand her the keys to my life.

Now that we are R'ing, I really wish I hadn't done that.

Crickets are your best friend right now.

Any response you take will just feed that vampire insect who will then skuttle out of the woodwork to feed on you and no amount of splatting with a magazine will squish that kind of hideous.

Put said magazine down and tickle that crickets tum until the urge to unleash the hell demon has gone.

I'm trying to get there mentally. I'm sure you ladies are right, that crickets are the best reply - I'm just sitting on my hands (not replying or blocking) until I get there.

I'm just glad she did this in October 2013 vs. October 2012, because my 2012 version would not be capable of not replying immediately. I'm proud of my restraint at this point.

Why don't you have her blocked on FB?

I have all of my X's OWmen blocked - at least those I know of.

AJ's MOM

I'm glad you posted this in General so I can say that she is a dumb hooker.

I tried to block my H's OW but she blocked me! At least I think she did because it won't let me block her (her name - at least the fake name she's using won't come up) And then she has FB page so super private she's generally hard to find. I guess she fucked with more then one married man and their family. Stupid whore.

SORRY total t/j I just meant to say - ignore it. They thrive off of the drama they create.

[This message edited by strongerdaybyday at 10:33 AM, October 29th (Tuesday)]

I'm not sure why I didn't block her. I think there was an element of wanting to keep an "eye" on her just in case, but effectively I just left myself open for contact, I guess.