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Divorce/Separation :
More Discoveries I didn't want

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 Ashland13 (original poster member #38378) posted at 10:35 PM on Friday, November 1st, 2013

For some reason, the XPervert has turned things up a notch. For a time the A location was quite hidden, with hidden address to boot...at least from me.

Now, mail is being changed to him for there and showing up at my house and causing triggers.

Today was a difficult day already with some changes in it, so this was not necessary to go home to-the A staring me in the face yet again, bold as brass, right in my own house.

I feel better not knowing the address of where "they" live or a anything about them...will it follow me forever?

He continues to bring her "to town" and introduce her into the life he left here.

I do not ever, ever want to set eyes on such a person and find myself trying to hide...literally.

The defiance is shocking, but I have a card in my pocket to play that will at least snub some of the fire out, when we get to court and in the meantime.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 4:37 PM, November 1st (Friday)]

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

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Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 11:12 PM on Friday, November 1st, 2013

It's so hard to feel like you've taken control back when unwanted and unwelcome reminders keep intruding your space.

40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 12:35 AM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013

((((Ashland))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 3:05 AM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013

I was hit by one out of the blue a few months ago.

The sad clown has never lived here - never had his mail come here.

I receive a letter addressed to him here. WTF? Then I realise its the stuff he needs for the health insurance bit on his Tax Return (he was on my health insurance for a few weeks of the current Financial Year).

I almost vomited when I saw it. So weird.

Ash, be careful of hiding away. DO NOT let these arsesholes make you a prisoner.

The sad clown's apartment overlooked mine for over a year. I didn't realise until he was gone just how stressful it was - keeping curtains closed, going to a different pool instead of using the awesome ones I have here. If I had my time again I would have ignored the fact that he was around and just lived my life instead of allowing him to factor in my decision making..

Let HIM be uncomfortable.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Rainbows ( member #39362) posted at 6:30 AM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013

((((Ashland)))))

I'm so sorry it seems like the hits keep coming.

Hopefully this chapter will move quickly. I'm so sorry, I know it stings.

There is always a rainbow after every storm.

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