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cluless (original poster member #40538) posted at 5:27 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
It seems like everyday I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. And today of course I found out my WH was taking MY car to go meet the OW. The hateful things he did just keeps piling up. How am I supposed to get over this? I hate him sometimes, and just don't want to do this anymore.
WH 57
BS 55 -- Me!
LTA EA/PA 1-1/2 years.
D-Day 8-12, 2nd D-Day 9-13, 3rd D-Day 10-13 (stopped counting tt still coming in)
Married 17 yrs, together 20.
MC & IC has been a JOKE.
Status: We're going to try IC one more time.
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 6:37 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
The TT ends when you say it does. If you draw a line in the sand and say no more and are willing to pull the plug. But as we are in the R forum my guess is that is not what you are thinking.
I have a question. Did this new info come from you asking the question and him answering it? ; Or was it a thing that came out of a conversation and he has had multiple opportunities to tell you this meaningful info prior but didnt?; or was it a third option where he just told you as he just remembered it now. All very different things, One deceitful, one trying to come clean with new info they just remembered, one a direct answer to a new question. The question is do you think the answer was deceitful.?
I am one that wants a full answer when I ask a question. No holding back details or things that might potentially hurt. I’ll even ask follow ups to make sure I get all the context I need. If later something drops that they avoided, then I have major issues.
All TT's hurt and believe me my wife was the master of the slow play. But not all TT is the same...
LHAP?
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
ptsdrecon ( member #36031) posted at 7:39 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
And as the perspective changes, the view changes, and perception changes....
be cognitive that as a BS these may be perceived as lies...
As in... "But I always loved you..."
Me BH (48)
Her FWW (39 + 1/2)
Married 12+
2 Angels 8 10
D-Day Feb 1 2012
6 month EA PA
cluless (original poster member #40538) posted at 8:04 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
The ONLY truth I've gotten from this man is FROM the OW's BH! He was disputing a lie my WH made to piss him off and he proved he was wrong by naming MY car as the auto he used to go see his lover. OF course he didn't tell me, he doesn't say anything unless somebody else tells me.
I thought up to today he "was starting" to get it. clearly after today's events, him back-stabbing me to the OW's BH even after I warned him it would be the final straw. He doesn't care, he wants it to end obviously, I'll just give him his wish.
WH 57
BS 55 -- Me!
LTA EA/PA 1-1/2 years.
D-Day 8-12, 2nd D-Day 9-13, 3rd D-Day 10-13 (stopped counting tt still coming in)
Married 17 yrs, together 20.
MC & IC has been a JOKE.
Status: We're going to try IC one more time.
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