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Hi,

I got some good advice this week from a counselor who does a lot of work in the courts. I am not how it works in all states, but here in mine, you are assigned a judge at the time you are served.

Once you know who the judge is, you can go online and research his/her rulings, the minutes from his cases, and learn as much about him as you can.

This counselor told me that she tells all her clients who may be heading to court that you should try to get to know your judge before hand so you know what to expect and won't be nervous when you show up for your trial. You can just go to court house, find out where his court room is and sneak in the back to watch other cases, learn and listen. She said to just try to look plain and be discreet and just try to blend into background with a little notebook.

I am hope hope hoping that we can settle before I have to do any of that, but I thought it was excellent advice and worthy of passing on....

In addition, experienced divorce lawyers can tell you what to expect if they know the judges. In my state, there are 4 rotating circuit court judges that hear all divorce cases. My attorney told me that 2 of the 4 are very old fashion and believe that it is the man's responsibility to fully support the woman no matter what the circumstances. Their reputation is that the guy gets screwed. Judge number 3 is neutral, and the 4th judge is somewhat progressive. So, he said I have a 50% chance of coming away with a much worse outcome if I contest the settlement plus have to pay lawyer fees. As I already had a good settlement in the bag, it was not worth the risk to try and improve it. That made the decision easy.