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seenow (original poster member #40720) posted at 3:22 AM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Wow. It's been six months and I am finally reading the reconciliation forum. Maybe that means I will try this? Dang, I always thought I would just leave if something like this happened. Now I am reading about how to heal a marriage. How to make this about us and not them. How to be strong for someone who was so weak. OY! A new path and I am crying. I wish this was not my journey.
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 3:54 AM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Welcome to R, seenow. It is NOT for the weak, but it has been well worth it for many.
We all wish we hadn't been shoved down this path, but it's the one we're on now and we have to do our best. Which you are. 
(((seenow)))
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
seenow (original poster member #40720) posted at 4:22 AM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Thanks Jrazz. From the outside I always thought the strong just left. Never did I know.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:40 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
All the outcomes of betrayal - R, D, limbo - take a lot of strength.
I could say I chose R because for me it's 'easier' than D, but that's just another way of saying I looked at my options, still loved my W, saw that my W was committed to doing the necessary work to R, so I chose R.
Bottom line: You need - and already have, though you may not yet realize it - a lot of strength now. Choose the outcome that you want and think is possible.
[This message edited by sisoon at 12:41 PM, November 17th (Sunday)]
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 6:50 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
YAY for R!
Like any road after an A, it's hard. But it's an experience you can learn and grow from in ways you never imagined.
There will be tough times, tears, still some WTF moments, but at the end of the day there is also peace.
I hope you both find it, together.
(((hugs)))
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
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