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peridot (original poster member #18334) posted at 6:28 AM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2013
The OW sent me an email telling me that my XH had kidnapped her son and he was planning to do the same with my kids. Only I didn't fall for his shit and let him have my kids.
Apparently they really did break up and he's been living with some girl. That's why he didn't want me knowing where he lived.
I'm going to the police dept in the morning. Doubt they will do anything but at least it will be reported if he tries anything. Think it's time to move somewhere else so he doesn't know where I live.
His sister works at my son's school so on Monday I will be going to both kids schools so they know what is going on.
He really is one stupid motherfucker! 
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 6:34 AM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2013
Oh Dear God. 
ETA: Is it possible for you & the kids to stay somewhere else this weekend? Anywhere? Hotel? Couch surf? Please don't be alone. If he's this psychotic, he could try to violently break into your home. I'm worried for you.
[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 12:35 AM, November 23rd (Saturday)]
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
peridot (original poster member #18334) posted at 6:49 AM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2013
No, I don't have any where else to go right now. We're getting winter storms right now. The OW got her son back. I know where he lives now. They aren't divorced so there wasn't much she could do. They don't even have a custody agreement. If he even tries to take my kids it's kidnapping.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
betrayedfriend ( member #19785) posted at 10:40 AM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2013
I'm glad she told you and that you have warning now. Good God please be careful! I'm worried about you and your littles. Has xsil been staying away from your ds?
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
peridot (original poster member #18334) posted at 12:00 PM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2013
She's been keeping her distance. I think she's afraid of loosing her job.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 4:04 PM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2013
Prayers and strength being sent your way. I sure hope the cops take this seriously. 
DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014
twinkie ( member #29203) posted at 4:17 PM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2013
Ladies and gentlemen this is why is so extremely important that we get temp orders in place!!
I am glad everything worked out for all persons!!
peridot (original poster member #18334) posted at 4:35 PM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2013
I spoke to a cop. He said there isn't anything they can do until he tries something. Which I already figured, just wanted to get it on paper. I was already worried about him trying to do something like this so I have been proactive about making sure I have done everything I can to protect the kids.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 5:34 PM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2013
I'm so glad your kids are safe, and have you for a mom, looking out for them. 
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
ChoosingHope ( member #33606) posted at 6:45 PM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2013
Ladies and gentlemen this is why is so extremely important that we get temp orders in place!!
Well, in some circumstances this is true. Not in mine. Temp orders would have given my STBX way more time with the children, possibly putting them in harm's way. Each divorce is different.
(((Peridot))) Hang in there and stay strong. I'm so glad you at least went to the police department. Did they file any paperwork at all???
peridot (original poster member #18334) posted at 7:55 AM on Sunday, November 24th, 2013
They took my statement and copied that email the OW sent me. Of course, the officer said they can't do anything until he breaks the law. I figured that already though.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 2:21 PM on Sunday, November 24th, 2013
FTG.
Hopefully he's on notice and won't try anything stupid.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:27 PM on Sunday, November 24th, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 3:01 PM on Sunday, November 24th, 2013
Does he get visitation with your kids?
Did the OW press charges? He straight up took someone else's kids. How is he not in jail?
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D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
peridot (original poster member #18334) posted at 3:57 PM on Sunday, November 24th, 2013
He doesn't have visitation with my kids. He didn't take my kids. He took his kid with the OW. They are married, no divorce has been filed and there isn't a custody order. That's how he got away with taking their kid. If he were to take my kids he would go to jail because I have sole custody.
Frankly, neither one of those idiots should be parents.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 8:33 PM on Sunday, November 24th, 2013
oh OK, I thought it was the OW's kid, NOT his kid. I read that all wrong.
Good thing he doesn't get visitation. But I'd watch your back, and make sure the school or anywhere else that they might be are on high alert.
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
peridot (original poster member #18334) posted at 10:28 PM on Sunday, November 24th, 2013
His sister works at my son's school, so yeah, I'll be there Monday morning talking to the schools. Both schools already know I am the only person who is supposed to pick the kids up.
He threatened to take off with the kids to Mexico years ago so I have done everything I can to make sure that never happens.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
Mousse242 ( member #6330) posted at 1:11 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
Do the kids know to make a scene if he tries to take them?
peridot (original poster member #18334) posted at 1:44 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
Yes, they do. When we have the stranger danger talk, I include their dad, his family and his friends. We've had extensive talks about this.
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I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 2:34 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
(((peridot)))
You sound like you have every thing under control. I hate that you have to be on high alert.
Hang in there.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
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