Thank you so much for the positive comments!
I am mostly a lurker but I have learned SO much from all of you. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, humor, trials and tribulations, your successes and failures. I think SI is a very special corner of the Internet.
Many, many times I would lie down and read SI on my phone, trying to get the moxie to keep going. I learned my feelings were normal, that my SO bore the responsibility for his decisions, and especially to focus on ME and self-care.
I especially related to FF's deciding to focus on *her* life rather than another relationship. I read Shellybean's single mom struggles and soooo sympathized. Tesla's kick ass attitude made me laugh and inspired me.
And the guys here -- do you know how much I want to believe that strong, faithful, loving, REAL men exist??? Do you know that it is a comfort to know you ARE out there, even if it seems more likely I will run into a unicorn before I meet someone like you? Stronger08, wonderingbull, bigger, abbondad, allatsea, and all the others whose names escape me ... Thank you for the example you set.
I am grateful for all I have received here. I will try to post more, even if it's a "what she / he said!"