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loli (original poster new member #41197) posted at 10:32 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
So, several weeks ago, we are sitting in MC and my WH says to the MC that he has always been committed to me and could only imagine spending his life and growing old with me.
So, let me get this straight...you get to sleep with a coworker for 6 years, + chase after God knows how many other skirts, but you would never leave me for any of them? Is that suppose to comfort me!??
Honestly, putting aside how mentally disturbing it sounds, you have to laugh at the cake eaters, they are certifiably insane!!! 
Me 40
WH 41
14 years married
3 Kids (6,9,12)
DD Oct.28 '13
PA: 6 years!!!
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 11:40 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
Is that suppose to comfort me!??
In their minds it's a no-brainer, in ours it is bat-shit-crazy 
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
Justgreatnews ( member #41666) posted at 12:40 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
My wife, while trying to soothe and explain how it happened said:
"Well it started with just kissing...."
Yeah, that makes it all better, something to think of with every kiss now.
Calli0pe ( new member #41683) posted at 2:49 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
Mine posted on an escort forum how I was the funniest, most amazing, blah blah blah. He totally loves me, man! He just wanted to put his d*ck in someone else.
Fan-fucking-tastic.
Me: BS, 35
Him: WS, 37
Married 5.5 years, friends for 10 before that
D-Day: Nov 29 2013
"Massage" parlors & Casual Encounters
Working on R, not sure I can live with it.
7yrsflushed ( member #32258) posted at 2:55 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
you have to laugh at the cake eaters, they are certifiably insane
Yes, delusional thinking at it's best. I hope your MC put the proverbial "smack down" on his ass via pointing out exactly how stupid his thinking is. He can't be allowed to continue to think that way. Thinking like that allows him to avoid taking full ownership of what he did. In his mind he never stopped loving you and can down play what he did when in reality the truth is very much the opposite. He in fact likely had some very shitty thoughts about you and your M to justify doing what he did. He is just selectively choosing to paper over those thought in MC so he doesn't have to face it or your reaction to it.
D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!
LivinginLimbo ( member #35004) posted at 9:41 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
I think your WH and mine were separated at birth. Same scenario, cheated for 7 years, two LTA's, two short ones and countless hookup attempts with others. Yet, he always loved me and wants to "grow old with me."
It's all part of the garbage they tell themselves to justify being a pig. It's amazing how this actually makes sense to them.
BS - 65
WH - 63
Married 37 years
D-Day 2/12/12
D-Day 6/1/16 Caught him back online early enough that no physical contact took place but still devastating. This sucks.
cl131716 ( member #40699) posted at 9:53 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
Oh yes! My Wh has said, "I've always loved you and I've always been committed to you." I told him I didn't want to hear that and if he believed that then there is no way I could ever trust him again. If he felt that way back then what changed? How will loving and being committed to me now stop him?
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
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