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aero1122 (original poster member #41575) posted at 11:28 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
Christmas was rough. Pretending all day long while the kids opened gifts and having dinner with his family sucked. I barely ate and just said I wasn't feeling well... this fog will not go away. He is remorseful and being very open with me. Apologizing and saying how much he loves me and sorry he hurt me. He starts counseling after the new year but I just can't function. Down 20lbs since d day. This is horrible
Me-35
WH-36
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R
I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!
cl131716 ( member #40699) posted at 12:51 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 1:17 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
I stayed in the bathtub most of that first month -- 2 years ago for me.....
I had to get counseling outpatient at a treatment center....There were several women in my group for the same reason-- cheating spouses upheaving our lives.
Just because he is willing to get help, doesn't repair the damage like the snap of fingers.
Heal at your own pace, process all this at your own pace, do not hide your pain from him,,, he has to see what he has done to you.
Get counseling for your self,,, it helps so much....I also got free counseling at the domestic violence center because emotionally abusing (cheating) is domestic violence.
((((aero))))
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
Gotmegood ( member #41407) posted at 1:21 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
Oh aero, I feel you. Your pain is palpable. If they only thought for a moment before acting like selfish d'bags. If they considered the consequences at all, some of us could have been spared this incredible pain. While it won't help make it go away, I feel that since you are at least being tended to, you have a decent shot at reconciling if that's what you chose to do. May these first horrible days pass quickly. Take care of yourself too. Stay hydrated and eat whatever you can get down. Also, take a walk and get some fresh air. Keep posting sweetie, we are here for you.
Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo
kra127 ( member #41045) posted at 2:16 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
I'm a couple months out and I still have days that I have difficulty doing the little things. Christmas was hard because my WS was here ALL DAY with the kids. Counseling has been very helpful and I feel so empowered when I leave the office. Do you have a good friend who you can vent to?
I'm sorry you're here.
Me 42
WS 41
2 young kids, Married 10 yrs
OW 22y/o
Dday 10/8/13
Divorcing
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 2:46 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
(((Aero1122)))
I'm so sorry. are you getting counseling for yourself? I hope good things come to you in the new year. Sending you cyber cocoa and cookies.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
aero1122 (original poster member #41575) posted at 2:49 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
Thank you all. I am starting counseling after the first of the year also. I am so thankful that I found this website and am able to vent here.
Me-35
WH-36
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R
I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!
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