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LostSamurai (original poster member #41347) posted at 1:03 AM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
I told my WW I am forgiving her and moving on...meaning I am detaching from her and I am not going to waste the energy spying on her. The last thing I am going to do is make another request for texts from our phone company, check to see if there are any numbers appearing multiple times that shouldn't be and just going on from there.
If she wanted to be back in this marriage, she would be doing it...not me. I am checking out.
I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...
Brandon808 ( member #35619) posted at 2:04 AM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
Agree with everything except the request for the records. If you're moving forward with truly detaching then don't ask for then unless you require them for legal reasons
suckstobeme ( member #30853) posted at 2:07 AM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
I'm sorry that she's not fighting to save your marriage, but I'm glad you are now fighting to save yourself. There sometimes comes a point when there is no choice but to throw up the white flag and move forward.
BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.
DazedWI ( member #41432) posted at 2:15 AM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
Cheers to you Samurai, I will pour you a scotch tonight so you can join me. Definitely a moment when you see the picture in front of you.
ME (29) - BS
Her (29) - STBXWW
Dday - 10/25/2013
Married - 7/2007
Been Together - 9/2003
RegretfulHusband ( member #41873) posted at 2:32 AM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
Very sorry to hear, LostSamurai.
Thinking good thoughts for you.
Me: FWH, 42
Her: BS, 41
Married: 15 years
Together: 20 years
Kids: 2 Boys, 12 & 13
"The truth shall set you free, but first it will make you miserable."
4everfaithful83 ( member #41761) posted at 4:07 AM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
Glad you're standing up for yourself!
wishing you some piece tonight...
Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...
ME: 36
1 doggie
DDay: June 24th, 2013
DDay 2 : August 22nd,2017
Left him August 26th, 2017
phoenixrise ( member #41745) posted at 4:33 AM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
I think thats big of you...me too Im getting to the point where it is just getting too exhausting and need peace...its a great step and hope it elevates you
"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul
PRNDL ( member #41927) posted at 6:23 AM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
I will never forgive my wife. Ever. For what she did and how she went about it. Im 9 months from d-day, separated, and headed for divorce.
She destroyed our future. She destroyed the last 14 years together. She destroyed my son's family.
I will carry this to my grave. Its horrible.
BH: 36 (me)
WS: 31 / OM: 31
Son: 12
Affair: 1.5 year long 2012
ONS with stranger Feb 2013
D-day #1 March 2013
D-day #2 April 2013
D-day #3 Sept 2013
Affair continued.
Limbo 7 months
Moved out - 180D - NC
Divorced
A over. Defogged. Trying R
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