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WEll....

My WW is trying to create family moments by using the kids.

she will bring my 7 months over and tell him to smile for Dada or when she is playing with my 5 year old tell him to call me over to play as a family.

Today she continue to send me pics of my 7 months old. They were all adorable but it just seems she is using the kids to save this marriage instead of doing the work on herself that is needed.

Or showing true remorse, transparity, honesty. Damn at this moment I would take one but none nothing.

" bring out the broom honey I will lift the carpets so we can hide your A here"

its not working im still filing for D

I got this too, mine was a clear reminder that my xww was a complete narcissist, she thought she could pretend everything was alright and it would be. She wants a family without doing any of the work to be a part of one.

When I told my WH that I was filing for divorce and he was not welcome to join our extended family Christmas Dinner, he actually seemed surprised. He said, "Gosh, I didn't think it would be like this. I saw us still going on ski trips together. I thought we would be friends."

They just don't get it sometimes....

What WSs don't understand is that no amount of 'Cute Kid Pictures' will erase the mental pictures of them with AP.

Unbelievable! Freaking clueless. (((((Neverwillhapn2me)))))

Without the other requirements for R, I think she's putting a major guilt trip on you sending those pics. And using the kids like that is just plain cruel..

It's sad when they are so unremorseful and don't take any responsibity and then try to make you feel bad for their consequences for their mistakes. Don't let her manipulate you into thinking it will be your fault if the kids are hurt by a divorce. She broke the family up, not you. She had plenty of time to think about the consequences, but she decided to be selfish and put herself before her family.

I know how painful this is for you. I think you are seeing her for who she truly is. Sending lots of continued strength to you..

Butterflygirl,

Looks like we are both sleepless tonight. Some more interesting events occur early. My WW family decided they would show up for a surprise visit. They no nothing about her A. Although they maybe suspecting something is going on. I did not attend any of there holiday functions this year. Together almost 10 years haven't missed one before the A.

Anyhow back to the story at hand, they call WW say we will be there in 5mins. WW comes into my little retreat AKA master bedroom and tells me. I responded with no problem but I will be leaving. She got annoyed with this and said they will only be here for a couple of mins. I told her I can not fake this marriage and I would not be rude by hiding in my room.

I should have continued with If you choose to confess to them I am more than willing to stay. Never thought to say that earlier. DAMN IT!!!

WW has not come clean to them she continues to tell them lies about where I am. ( they probably think im a dick by now)

I came home about an hour and a half after they left. Go straight to my retreat and jump on SI,( FYI I am practicing the 180) WW comes in to get something and is so PISSED that I am still ignoring her, she pauses, staring at me but I ignore it and keep reading posts. WW takes a deep breath and storms out and is in the process of slamming the door but somehow gains self control and stops.

Not sure why, maybe she knows I would not even acknowledge it.

Maybe she realises that I will not be the one to chase her anymore to resolves matters. I was always the one to initiate communication when we were at odds with each other, even when she was in the wrong.

NO MORE, im done chasing her and solving all our problems. The foundation that was this marriage ( ME) is being pulled from under it.

Oh believe me I know im not perfect and that I somehow some way contributed to the demise of our marriage. But the time to talk about these things and resolve them was before the A.

I was just made to attend my kids' birthday party at my old house. WW insisted I posed for family pictures and kept bossing me around (I mostly stayed as far away from her as possible). It was awkward to say the least.

My friends know I don't live in the house anymore and luckily one of them was at the party (and I mostly talked to him), but I don't think many of these parents knew.

It took everything in me not to make a speech to, ahem, clarify some things.