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ShatteredPagan (original poster member #35475) posted at 11:37 PM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014
We are in the middle of A season with our antiversary fast approaching. Its been alomst 2 years since DDay and we have come a long way.
So my FWS responds to a story I was sharing about training someone today with "well, he might have a past like me." I was floored. We dont talk about his A anymore. I know it all, or as much as I want to know. He is extremely remorseful and I dont have the desire to rub his face in it anymore. So I was speechless when he made referrence to it. He then held me and apoligized again for hurting me.
Now this in itself made my heart sing. But wait... theres more!
He then told me about a girl who does checkout at the retail job he does. He said that he had gone thru her line several times when he started to feel that there was a little too friendly conversation happening. The next time he went thru he made a point to talk about me and the girls to her. He then said that after that she was still friendly but not the same.
I Am proud of him for 1) telling me about it and 2) having good solid boundries. He respected my wishes in all of it!
I had to pass on a good story. :)
WS (him) 50, Diagnosed SA
BS (me) 41
Together since 5/13/2005
Married 10/13/2012
No kids together. 3 total between us (19, 17, 15)
Multiple A's
Sobriety birthday: 1/11/2012
D-day #1: 2/17/2012
False R: 3/1/12
D-day #2: 7/27/14 - real R began
trying1 ( member #40954) posted at 11:50 PM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014
So glad to hear it. Its nice to hear that he came through for you!!! Thanks for sharing.
Me: 43 (BS)
Him:40 (FWH)
Married:13 years
4 kids
DDay 7/27/13
LTA: 3 years
Divorce 5/2016
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 11:56 PM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 1:59 AM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
meplusfour ( member #38958) posted at 2:20 AM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."
ziganska ( member #41690) posted at 2:22 AM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
That's a great story and one I needed today! Thanks!
Me: 42
Him: 49
DD: 12/2/2013
Married: 9 years but together for 15
Recovering, Reconciling, Rebuilding, Restoring
ok2014 ( new member #42060) posted at 3:53 AM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
THANK YOU THANK YOU!! Not too many happy stories here. I so needed to hear happy ending after talking to a divorce lawyer (very depressing meeting) I like to read betraydwivesclub blog but right now I feel like I belong here since WH is not ready to reconcilate.
ME BS
HIM WH
2 teenage kids
Separated
Calls OW a leech......I just wonder what he calls me..
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 8:24 AM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
greengiant ( member #41196) posted at 5:44 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
ME - BS - 35 (33 on dDay)
fWW - 35 (33 on dDay)
Married 10 years, together 17
3 kids: 8, 6 and 4
D-Day: September 30th, 2013
She had a 6 weeks A with a COW
lostcovenants ( member #40637) posted at 7:57 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Thank you for sharing this - I was looking for positive stories today and this was a great help to me! 
DDs, 1977 (prostitutes), 7/8/13 (LTA MOW), 11/14 (CL), 9/1/15 (PA).
Porn, 2DUIs, blame-shifting. I told both families & adult kids. I was suicidal and cutting.
I moved out for 2 years, he asked me to come home 10/16. R w exit plan.
STD discovered
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 9:46 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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