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 lonelymommyof2 (original poster member #42013) posted at 11:13 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

So now that I know the truth of what happened...the details I needed to know...who she is ect. I find myself having bad triggers. For example, I can't eat del taco because that's where they ate after they did what they did last night...probably will never have sex in a car because thats what they did. Every time he calls me "baby' or says something sweet, I wonder how many times he has said that to her. Little dumb things like that make me trigger. I go from being happy as can be...to having something little put me into I hate him and her mode. I'm guessing my prego hormones aren't helping much. We start counseling soon thankfully. Anyone have any tips to stop thinking about them together...to stop having these mind movies...to let go? Thanks friends

ME: 21
WH: 25
One 2 year old, one 4 month old.
D Day: 11/30/13 (my birthday)
EA and PA with COW
currently in R

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Lostinthismess ( member #39210) posted at 11:17 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2014

I tend to go submerging myself in the thoughts until they don't hurt anymore. Instead of trying to push the thoughts out, sit with them. Feel them. Until you can say f*^k them and let them go. Some triggers are easier to do that with than others.

'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

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