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Divorce/Separation :
Reluctant to hash out financial data

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 Smashedat58 (original poster member #41705) posted at 4:37 PM on Sunday, January 26th, 2014

Hi all, I' m on my way to getting a collaborative divorce, with no regrets. I have let go of the false future I thought I had. My problem, now, is that I can't bear to see WH to get our financial information documented. I know I have to do this, but I know I'll be nasty to him. He's such an unbelievably selfish pig, that he still thinks he's a great guy for helping me get the information that I am entitled to. It would be so much easier if he showed the least amount of remorse. I had to put him off today, because I didn't sleep well last night, and I told him I was sick. He came over, anyway, to his mother's house next door, and I'm just waiting for him to leave, so I can do what I want to, today. Anybody else ever feel this way, trapped, or in a rut?

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 8:52 PM on Sunday, January 26th, 2014

I don't understand the dilemma. Maybe I'm not reading your post correctly. You say you're going for a collaborative divorce, but then say you don't want to share the data necessary to make that happen. Is that right?

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 9:06 PM on Sunday, January 26th, 2014

I read it as Smashed doesn't want to see her STBXWH in order to get the data.

Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)

WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).

I edit often for clarity/typos.

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 Smashedat58 (original poster member #41705) posted at 9:14 PM on Sunday, January 26th, 2014

That's it, I feel sick at having to see the WH. I'm stuck on this.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 9:25 PM on Sunday, January 26th, 2014

Then may I suggest scanning & emailing the data? That's how most of the data I got from my ex came. Scanned into a pdf and emailed.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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 Smashedat58 (original poster member #41705) posted at 9:36 PM on Sunday, January 26th, 2014

Trying to do this as we speak.

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