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LA44 (original poster member #38384) posted at 11:44 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
I was happy yesterday. My H was invited to Mr. Pothead's super bowl party and he declined. He would often go there with another friend and head to this guys man-cave. There is always booze, pot and college students coming and going. It's gross. This guy is married. She buries it. Nice life. I recently told him that from here on out, I want to know every time he goes there. Every time he smokes pot. I want to know what I am dealing with at all times now.
Anyway. I said, "I am glad you are staying home to watch the game." He said, "I'm glad too. I want to be here."
My son made signs and taped them around the house - Supper Bowl parttty - it was cute! And so was Bruno Mars. 
(is that crossing boundaries?)
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Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 11:52 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
Good for him. And for you, for laying out that boundary.
And look, there are some things that have to be grandfathered in - and one of those is my long lasting internal love affair with Anthony Kiedis. The spouse gets Halle Berry. It's all good.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
LA44 (original poster member #38384) posted at 1:03 AM on Tuesday, February 4th, 2014
Love that term "grandfathered in" Rebreather. Yes. I thought you might like to see that post. In the past I have been ditched for Mr Pothead and looking back I can't even believe I turned my head on it. One of his good friends went so I know he likely would have gone too had it not been for D-Day.
Incidentally, am a bit of a groupie too. And while Bruno is adorable Springsteen does it for me. Those legs in his jeans. His energy. That raspy voice. H did have Keira Sedgewick as his "Closer" but he basically blew that now didn't he?
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 8:01 PM on Tuesday, February 4th, 2014
Sorry LA. I trump you in age a bit, and Bruce, is mine 
I was away for the weekend, but so happy to hear he wanted to skip his friend's super-bowl party.
Party at home, that's the place to be. Making memories with you and the kids.
(((hugs))) I know it meant a lot to you.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
LA44 (original poster member #38384) posted at 8:43 PM on Tuesday, February 4th, 2014
Nooooo karma! I cannot give the Boss up even for you!!!
Also, he thanked me profusely for the SB party effort. All I did was put some wings in the oven while producing a few bowls of chips but...he was grateful. He asked a couple neighbourhood guys over who are fun and respectful towards me.
I have more good news too but it needs a separate post. Hint: Emerald Isle!
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:02 PM on Tuesday, February 4th, 2014
I'm glad your H made that choice, LA.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 1:03 AM on Wednesday, February 5th, 2014
That's awesome! Hope you are Seahawks fans!
Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciled
LA44 (original poster member #38384) posted at 2:20 AM on Wednesday, February 5th, 2014
Thank you Sisoon!
Oh catlover, I wish I could say I was a Seahawk fan. It was a good day to be one though!
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
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