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simplydevastated (original poster member #25001) posted at 7:39 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
When I found my husband's online dating account on AFF (he has seven), I also found my BIL, his middle brother, on the same site. Thank god the picture was of his face 
Anyway... I was reading my husband's nephew's twitter timeline (he has posted things about my husband in the past so I periodically check it) and what did I find? His nephew posted that he found his father's okcupid.com account. That's my husband's eldest brother. Guess what else? He's married. Shocker...
So all three of the brothers are on online dating sites and two of them are married.
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 7:55 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
Sounds like there is lots of FOO issues there. 
simplydevastated (original poster member #25001) posted at 8:33 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
The stories I could tell... 
To sum it up, they ALL have that victim mentality. 
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 10:01 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
((((sd))))
((((nephew))))
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 10:39 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
That's really messed up.
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 10:40 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
Gross. Hopefully, if there's anything to gain from this, it's a reminder that this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with his dysfunction.
(((sd)))
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
simplydevastated (original poster member #25001) posted at 10:52 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
Thanks everyone.
Vulcanized, yes, it's really messed up.
Jrazz, I know it has nothing to with me, this is my BIL. He's wicked arrogant.
The only thing I'm struggling with is should I tell his wife? She's been a total bitch to me and my husband. The right thing would be to tell her, but I like not having that family in my life.
I haven't even decided if I should tell my husband. I can only imagine how that conversation would go.
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
whattheh ( member #40032) posted at 11:00 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
If you don't want a hassle but want her to know maybe there's a way you can anonymously point her towards the hookup profiles?
Retired & now in 60's-M 39 Yrs-DD 2013-TT for 3 yrs (new details incl there had been 3 more MOWs)--all this started with porn use for mid 50s WH (felt he was possessed)~~Cheating and aftermath is huge time waste with high opportunity cost~~
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 11:31 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
Create a new untraceable email address (google it) and forward the links for all of the brothers to their wives. No more drama for you!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
simplydevastated (original poster member #25001) posted at 1:43 AM on Friday, February 7th, 2014
I feel that I would need more evidence if I was going to do that. I went out to the website and you have to be a member to view profiles. I didn't want to set up a fake account. I did that enough back when I first found out about my husband.
There's only the one wife. It's the three brothers. The eldest, middle, and my husband. The nephew is the son to the eldest brother from his first marriage. My husband thinks his first wife was cheating on him, but he never told his brother. The middle brother had a girlfriend a while ago, but she left him. He's not in a relationship now. Just knowing him I'd be surprised if he would ever be in a relationship again.
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 2:58 AM on Friday, February 7th, 2014
I know it's your BIL - I just meant that your H is cut from the same cloth as your WH, and it's yet another indicator that he comes from brokentown.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
simplydevastated (original poster member #25001) posted at 1:47 PM on Friday, February 7th, 2014
I'm sorry. I misunderstood. 
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
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