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huskers (original poster member #42168) posted at 8:04 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2014
Filed Legal Sep Friday. He will be served today after a month of separation and drama. He's already an angry hot mess, since I am the bad guy in all this, exposing his whore, changing the locks, moving money. But nothing has changed. He is not willing to work on marriage. He is still with her. Not looking forward to the explosion when he gets served at work, because he won't give me a home address.
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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 8:05 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2014
((((huskers)))) Is there someone who can be with you today? Stay safe, honey.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
WeepingBuddhist ( member #39139) posted at 8:15 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2014
Let us know you're OK, please?
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
HurtsButImOK ( member #38865) posted at 10:03 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2014
(((huskers)))
Hope you are okay.
If you can block his number, dont speak to him. If that is not possible have a response prepared "you can speak to my attorney about that". If you are in fear of your physical safety is there somewhere else you can stay or a brother/male friend who can stay with you?
Hope he is all hot air and bluster and you are safe.
Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore
"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 10:07 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2014
((( huskers )))
I agree with the previous posters.
Try to find someone (supportive) to hang out with and do not answer your phone.
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 11:13 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2014
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
huskers (original poster member #42168) posted at 1:37 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
I am ok. Sorry didn't mean to disappear. He sent a nasty text. Then he texted our teen son and said 'mom is trying to get sole custody of you. Sorry if I've disappointed you'.
Nice put your issues on to him. Son replied yes he is very disappointed. Husband says we can talk about it. Son says no. You're the one with the issues not me. Wow. Who is this kid? Lol. My mom says he got his strength from watching me be strong through all this.
And yes... Some friends were also worried about his response and threat to get a locksmith or bust door down. He can still legally do that . One staying night tonight and the other tomorrow. I am truly blessed with a lot of support and all of you.
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 1:47 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
Be strong. We are with you in spirit!
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
Shockleader ( member #36827) posted at 1:52 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
But nothing has changed. He is not willing to work on marriage. He is still with her.
You did EXACTLY the right thing! Buckle up, and expect a very bumpy ride. I experienced the same parental alienation crap; these POS cheaters are such pathetic WEAK COWARDS, using their own children as fodder!!!... Do not be afraid, remain resolute, and let the power of your conviction carry you forward.
We are all wishing you the best of luck, and hope for a much better future.
D-Day spring 2012
Me BS 53
Xcheater... Who cares.
One DD 25
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A!
The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 2:59 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
Thinking about you huskers and sending you strenght - stay safe.
And, yes, your son is amazing. 
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DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
huskers (original poster member #42168) posted at 3:55 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
Thank you all for the strength and good thoughts . There will be plenty of time to worry and have the roller coaster of emotions. Tonight I am at peace I did the right thing and will focus on my sons and moving forward. Because dammit I'm worth it
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