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Last night I went to a Meet Up for writers. ACK! I'm trying to put myself out there, meet people, interact with society, find an outlet for my creativity. Rebuild my life.

I didn't read any of my work, mostly just listened to what others shared. Offered a few thoughts of my own when appropriate.

It felt really weird. Unnatural. So strange to be out in a public venue with people. I still feel very out-of-place when I'm out in certain kinds of public places. I'm trying so hard to break through the remnants of the bondage I was once under. This is yet another attempt!

I'll go back in two weeks. I'm alternating my Tuesday nights. One week I'll go to the support group at my church. The following week this meetup group for writers.

This is how I get my life back, right?

NG - how great! It's HUGE that you went! I'm so glad you're going again, even though it felt weird. You're stretching those wings, so a little discomfort is to be expected. But you did it anyway - yay you!

That sounds pretty awesome. A writer meet up sounds perfect for you. You are very creative and original.

I always feel super awkward at first, too. Keep going! I bet you are a regular before you know it.

[This message edited by littlefoggy at 10:07 PM, February 26th (Wednesday)]

NG, yes you do. It feels awkward at first, but once you have made a connection with somebody it will get easier. Keep putting yourself out there, you can only get better with practice. This is not any different than the other things in life you have to practice.

Good luck to you!

Yay!!!! Go NG!!

It does feel weird in the beginning, then you become one of the "regulars" and you will be helpful to the new members.

Good for you, NG.

Think you'll go back?

Yes, this is how you get your life and self-esteem back.

Baby steps right now. Don't rush into anything.

Good job.

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Good job NG. That first one is hard. I've done two. The first was to watch a football game at a bar....very strange to just sit down with a bunch of people you don't know and drink and eat together. But they were very friendly. The second was an ultimate frisbee group...a bunch of "kids" in their early 20s and me. Also very strange, but I kept up with them and felt good for it.

Keep going. You'll feel like one of the regulars after a few visits.

Way to go NG! Yep, we have to make that move to be independent. I am going, by myself, to a Chamber event this Sunday. I've never done "by myself" before. I'll definitely be nervous.

I think this is how we do it! LOL

Wow. Way to go!!! I've signed up for a few different meetup groups, but I never actually went to a meetup. Good for you! Glad to see that you tried it out.

Thanks for the encouragement, you guys!

Yes, I will go back. I am writing a memoir of what I've gone through and really want feedback so I can get it right. I also have many starts to stories I've conceived over the years. I would love to give birth to them. I think a writing group would give me enough accountability and feedback to keep me going. However, it's going to take guts for me to read out loud, in public, to a mixed-gender group, a memoir of my experiences. I've already cleared it with the group leader, I just have to muster the courage to be so public with it.

When I first separated from my ex I joined a meetup group for "survival moms". I thought it would be more of a single moms group where we'd learn to do the things our husbands had previously done (use power equipment, minor car stuff, and so forth) and how to be safe & secure now that we were on our own. Instead it was about survivalists and End Times planning. I just couldn't get into it, so I stopped going.

I am very deliberately trying to find my people and make my village.

This is how I get my life back, right?

Yes it is! It feels weird at first but keep going and doing things. It gets better and easier. Keep on building that village!

You are on the right track. Stick with it and good luck

Yay for you NG! Love it that you are being deliberate and focused even tho you feel awkward.