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hexed (original poster member #19258) posted at 12:06 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
6yrs -- yep 6yrs-- 2008-- My entire world exploded that year. My M died, I got laid off, My FIL died, one of my fur babies died, filed bankruptcy and many many other things. The biggest and longest lasting fallout has been the financial ramifications. I've slowly, oh so slowly been rebuilding my credit.
Today, I went to a big dealership and bought a car that I WANTED. It is used but much newer than my 13 year old, barely hanging on car. I was able to put half down and get financed at a reasonable interest rate on the remainder. 
silly thing to be sooooooo happy about but I am. this has been a goal for a long time for me. new beginning, new to me car....C H E C K!
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 12:34 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
woohoo! that's awesome!
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 12:46 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 12:49 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Does this mean the job thing worked out?
GO New Beginnings!!
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 12:51 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Awesome! I was so excited when I bought (well, financed 
) my very first car on my own. I felt so grown up. 
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 12:51 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Congrats Hexed and so, happy for you 
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"
hexed (original poster member #19258) posted at 12:58 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
CG --- yep! it worked out. and better than that so far its great.
Its not the first car I've ever financed but its the first major bank financing since the D and corresponding bankruptcy My credit still isn't great but at least I can get a car financed now.
In odd sort of bit of irony. I just realized that tomorrow is DDay antiversary.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 12:59 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Yay!!!! I love warm fuzzy announcements. Such happiness in this post.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 1:37 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Yay Hexed!! Congrats on the car, and even bigger congrats on the job!!!
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 1:45 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Congratulations!!! Enjoy your new car.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:52 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Happy milestone!
Now where's the pic?
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
ISPIFFD ( member #26367) posted at 3:00 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
I'm done here; sick of 2 x 4s
ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 6:27 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
You're rocking your world these days, hexed.
Nicely done.
AJ's MOM
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 6:31 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Love it!!! Congrats on your new ride!
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
hexed (original poster member #19258) posted at 6:57 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Its a 2008 Audi A4. Low miles and much needed all wheel drive. Got a great price. Better than the Subarus I was looking at. VERY HAPPY
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
HurtsButImOK ( member #38865) posted at 8:14 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Yay! Such a great achievement!
One day I too will buy a car (again) under my own steam. My first 'brand new' car experience was ruined by x. One day, after I stop free falling I will have my 'first brand new car' experience authentically. Until then I will be happy with every step up I take on my own.
Such a good feeling to achieve great success despite what your x has done.
Well done!
Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore
"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 10:02 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Congrats, hexed!!! You've come so far. Enjoy your new ride!!
Failure is success if we learn from it.
exhausted lady ( member #30217) posted at 1:21 AM on Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
Good for you! YAY! I'm going to be driving my geriatric Jeep til it goes toes up.....but that's okay, I love it. I hope you get the same loyalty from your new (to you) Audi as I've gotten from my Jeep. I've become very emotionally attached to this vehicle, and I don't think I could ever part with it. (it was my first "bought it on my own" vehicle purchase too)
Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr
SeanFLA ( member #32380) posted at 5:20 PM on Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
BS(me) 53
WW 52
1 son 20 yrs old
Married 18 yrs, together 21 yrs
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley
iamasurvivor ( member #29728) posted at 2:51 AM on Monday, March 3rd, 2014
Congrats Hexed!
It is a great feeling. We are stronger than we ever knew we had to be!
I will come out stronger!
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