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Chippednotbroken (original poster member #40170) posted at 5:15 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
I am not that far out. Been done with ex way before I found out about affair. I dislike him intensely. I wish he would find a nice women so I could deal with her instead of him. I am in no way shape or form wanting another "relationship". So here is my problem! I want physical contact. I want a safe person to call at night. I don't need advice about a toy or volunteering. Does this intense feeling of needing to be physical go away? I can't seem it find an alternative that makes it better.
Me 34 (former BS)
Happily Divorced November 17, 2014.
3 young kids all under 9.
"I'm sorry you don't like my honesty. But to be fair, I don't like your lies."
ProbableIceCream ( member #37468) posted at 5:49 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Take a large enough dose of a med that inhibits serotonin reuptake and it'll go away for sure. 
Chippednotbroken (original poster member #40170) posted at 5:57 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Well crap. 
Me 34 (former BS)
Happily Divorced November 17, 2014.
3 young kids all under 9.
"I'm sorry you don't like my honesty. But to be fair, I don't like your lies."
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:21 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Does this intense feeling of needing to be physical go away?
It will ebb. It will also come back from time to time. Hang in there.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 8:51 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Exercise?
Maybe you are feeling juice come back into your body after a long oppression. Things are waking up. Its all energy and you can channel it where you choose to.
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
I.will.survive ( member #34677) posted at 9:28 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Go for a massage. You'll love the high you get afterwards. 
phillygirl ( member #9078) posted at 9:45 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
I second the massage. I have those Hand and Stone places near me, they sell subscriptions pretty cheap so you can go regularly.
But yeah, the wanting just a snuggle at night or sweaty sex sneaks up on me too. Then I remember I never really had too much of that anyway and I schedule a massage or grab BOB.
Me - BW
Him - WH
Divorced - 7/2013
Chippednotbroken (original poster member #40170) posted at 9:50 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
I exercise regularly, not helping. Yes I have alternatives, but not quite the same is it? I'll try the massage. If nothing else my back will feel better :).
Me 34 (former BS)
Happily Divorced November 17, 2014.
3 young kids all under 9.
"I'm sorry you don't like my honesty. But to be fair, I don't like your lies."
burnedcanuckEMS ( member #35813) posted at 10:17 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
No, it doesn't go away. I also want that sort of contact, however as part of my healing I am much more careful in my choices in men now, and as a result have been celibate for nearly a year. 
I really missed having something to cuddle up to in bed. My bed just seemed to big and empty, especially since I moved into an apartment and can't even have my dog or cat. One day at Costco I spotted these huge body length pillows. It doesn't really replace a warm body but it does help me to snuggle up to it! And it comes with a lot less baggage and I don't have to worry about it cheating on me!!!
Me: BW 38, Him: WH 37
M: 07/07/07
DDay: 06/09/12
Divorce Granted on December 5, 2012 - fasted divorce ever (thanks to my good lawyer) and I am not looking back with ANY regrets!!
Ipad user sorry for any spelling errors or missing letters etc..... ty
mainlyinpain ( member #39134) posted at 10:36 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
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mainlyinpain ( member #39134) posted at 10:38 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Sorry chipped not broken,
I know what you are feeling. Humans need to touch.
I second the pillow idea /\/\/\/\/\ (like this one)...
Or a pooch if you can have one.
Hugs to you
You'll get through it
erzulie ( member #3293) posted at 11:38 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Just waving my hand to join the "crowd" here.
I, too, crave physical affection. Almost in an unhealthy way, in fact. Not just the hot steamy kind, but the sweet kind, too.
It keeps me up at night sometimes, tossing and turning. Sometimes it actually feels like it hurts.
Ugh.
A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".
Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.
Chippednotbroken (original poster member #40170) posted at 5:37 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014
Yes erzulie! I feel obsessed. I have to tell myself to stop. Most weeks are fine but then I'll go through three days where I feel crazy.
Nice pillow!
Me 34 (former BS)
Happily Divorced November 17, 2014.
3 young kids all under 9.
"I'm sorry you don't like my honesty. But to be fair, I don't like your lies."
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