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Jackson75 (original poster new member #42754) posted at 10:51 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014
I recently ended a relationship because he cheated on me with hookers. I have so much anger and pain in me. I keep praying but I only have a few days of happiness until it hits me again. all the things he lied to me about to my face over and over. I wish I would have left as soon as he lied the first time. But because I loved him, I thought it would get better. He always blamed me for his cheating and wanting too much sex. Then he wonders why im grumpy at him all the time. He always said I made it about his penis but by buying the 2 hookers he will admit to, he himself made it about his penis. I just feel he never truly loved me and I am so sick of how society has made cheating ok. I just wanted to share that even after a shorter relationship (1yr)(cheated after 3 months in)(that im aware of), it really takes a part of you away inside. I had such plans with this man for the future. I realize it would have never worked, but why cant this pain go away.
devasted30 ( member #39439) posted at 12:16 AM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
The pain will lessen, but it will take some time. Just know this is not your fault. The onus is on him. He cheated. No matter where you two were in your relationship, cheating is never acceptable. This is not your fault!!!
And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!
scarednbroken ( member #41961) posted at 1:09 AM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
He may have cheated only three months in, but you were vested for that year.
Take care of you. At least you found out and woke up now - before M, before kids!! Some choose to ignore the premarriage signs - myself included - and get in deep when it seems too late. You will heal. You are young. There is a guy out there for you that will appreciate you and not need a hooker to make them feel manly.
Hugs to you....
BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for
ShiningAutumn8 ( member #42558) posted at 2:45 AM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
I am so sorry Jackson. Just know that it has nothing to do with you. Its something in them that causes the to make such ratchet choices.
Im curios, if you dont mind sharing, how did you discover he saw hookers? I too am in a 1 yr relationship with by all accounts is a wonderful man, but I recently saw he looked at an escort website while out of town. Im having trouble believing it was innocent curiosity vs he actually considered or even did see one.
In your situation the biggest red flag is his lack of remorse/responsibilty, ie trying to blame it on you.
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