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He sent a text a couple of weeks ago from her phone number saying that he lost his phone and that if I needed to get ahold of 'them' that I should use her number.

I'm not too keen on texting her number. I haven't needed to share any info...so no big deal. Plenty of time for him to get a replacement phone.

Today moron texts me from her number that 'I can't pick up Teslet this weekend, can we switch weekends?'

Guidelines say that if he gives notice, that if I'm able, I ought to switch. In this case, I can't give him the weekend he wants but will certainly let him forfeit this weekend...but I really don't want to text her number. So I figured I would just email a response and respond to the text that he can check his email for my response?

This guy is a piece of shit and I've used our text exchanges in the past in court...so I'd really rather communicate with him through a form that is dedicated to him, KWIM?

I thought maybe I'd say something to that effect in the email:

Moron-

Teslet and I are travelling out of town 5 April-12 April for spring break per the text sent on XXX. So that weekend is unavailable for a switch.

I prefer to communicate with you through email until you have your own phone again as I would hate for a misunderstanding to occur.

Fuck off and die,

Tesla

I promise I won't sign off like that, but I think it every time I have to communicate with him.

What think ya'll?

I think it is perfect, sign off and all.

I think you also need to state that you are happy to keep Teslet this weekend, but since you can not switch, he will be forfeiting his weekend.

I really, really, really....REALLY think you need to spell that out for him, how it works, or he's going to hound you for weeks.

About the phone? You *know* he can't afford a phone anymore and that's why he doesn't have one, right? Since he's an unemployed idiot that owns a rented house and can't pay CS, but can afford horseback riding lessons...I mean...there's just no cash left for a phone.

Uh, yeah, no way in fuck I'm texting OW's phone.

I agree to add you will take him. And I would just say, "please confine all communications to email."

Fucking morons. You deserve a medal for dealing with that level of stupid.

I feel like his using her phone will be the gateway to her trying to pick teslet up from school or something. I like the email idea. I like the signoff too.

I think the e-mail is fine, but personally would not bother with the text saying "check your email." I'd completely refuse to use her phone at all. :)

Text back 1x, and 1x only .. "I am blocking this number, as it is NOT your phone. Communicate through e-mail only until you replace your phone. Per my L."

I suggest this.

Per the text sent on XXX Teslet and I are travelling so that weekend is unavailable for a switch.

I will communicate with you through email until you have your own phone again.

Let him keep texting you from her phone and you respond via email.

The sad clown has texted me from OWUmpteens number when he has lost his phone (ironically the first time was just after telling me he was introducing his whore to my girls and just days after he threatened to get an AVO because I called them losers/whores via email - he was clearly hoping I would start harassing her and thereby help his case against me. Never happened. I kept calling them losers/whores whores in emails to him for another few weeks until I got good at NC).

The texts he sent were about goodnight calls to the girls rather than parenting issues. I would not make parenting plans via whores phone. Not because it's whores phone (I don't give a shit anymore) but because I don't trust him as far as I can piss as he would absolutely claim he didn't agree to arrangements made on her phone just to fuck me over.

[This message edited by SBB at 7:58 PM, March 27th (Thursday)]

I like that, SBB, it's short-plain as fucking daylight--and lays out future expectations of communications. Perfect.

Can you just imagine trying to communicate through her phone about Teslet? Shit, so much would get lost in translation.

Just imagine it, me saying something and stripper whore relaying it to ex-shat, who relays his response to her and she texts me back. I think it would go like this...

Tesla: Teslet is in the ER for a suspected broken arm. Will update after he has seen the doctor.

Response from stripper whore's phone: Yeah, chicken sounds great.

I have no faith in the combined intellectual abilities of stripper-shat.

I totally agree that all comms need to go through email until ex-shat gets his own phone. Especially if you have had to take his texts into court -- it would be too easy for him to deny that *he* was the one having the conversation if it was occurring on someone else's phone.

Remember not too long ago when he kept texting you and *asking/assuming* that THIS was his make-up weekend? I think you need to pin him down on his *switch* weekend. (I think my agreement requires that the *make-up* happen within a certain amount of time). Give him a deadline to come up with a mutually agreeable weekend.

Response from stripper whore's phone: Yeah, chicken sounds great.

Well, since neither of them has jobs anymore, why would they need two phones? They'll never be apart.

LOL... Maybe I'm just cynical... But you really think they only have TWO phones between them?

I'm just waiting for missent text to/from an AP to pop up into the mix.

Chesh

Do you think maybe stripperwhore has 'accidentally' broken his phone and is trying to keep an eye on him?

This is the main reason I have NC with xWH. They "share" a phone. I refuse to attempt to co parent or communicate with OWifetress, it isn't her business. I agree, e-mail until he has his own phone. You may be e-mailing for quite some time. xWH and Owifetress also "share" an e-mail and FB account so there is NC at all. You may have to adjust to this situation in your future also. Trust issues run deep in these marriages born from As. Go figure

Tesla: Teslet is in the ER for a suspected broken arm. Will update after he has seen the doctor.

Response from stripper whore's phone: Yeah, chicken sounds great.

Sorry I know this is a serious topic but that shit was funny!

Glad you got your response down Tesla. I also liked SBB's response.

stripper-shat

They are like Bennifer, only with less money.

I really, really, really....REALLY think you need to spell that out for him, how it works, or he's going to hound you for weeks

omg...Tesla couldn't spell it out better for him if she was the Queen of Seseme Street and using alphabete soup as a reward.

Honestly, I'm not too worried about him hounding me for his make-up weekend...this is mainly due to how spring break and Easter falls (all happen to be my weekends...I love it when that shit falls my way). Then it's our court date. I really expect him to be sentenced to 30 days in jail...unless a miracle occurs and he hits 10 grand at the casinos.

Interesting tidbit...stripper-shat's phone was turned off today. So you know, shit is looking up for them.

How much longer you think it will be before this guy cuts his losses and disappears?

How did I miss the nickname Stripper-Shat? I love it!