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betrayedidiot (original poster member #42868) posted at 2:57 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
My DD doesn't seem to want to sleep over at WH's new apartment. He says I should support him in needing time with her. I don't want to cause her more stress than necessary. Does anyone have advice?
Me: BS
Married almost 20 years
2 year EA and 1 month PA
DD-16
D-Day: 01/14/14
Separated and divorcing
Caretaker1 ( member #42777) posted at 2:59 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Yes, coach her to try. It's important she has daddy time and needs to get used to transitions. I'm sure this divorce is stressful. Look into counseling for her also if you feel it is needed.
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Leia ( member #42510) posted at 3:19 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
I agree with Caretaker. My DD has had trouble sleeping at my place because I'm the one that moved and got different furniture. Let her know that it is ok to spend time with him at his house. I also checked out books at the library about D for the kids. It helped them to read about it and understand that things were going to be separate.
"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 5:22 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Why does she have to spend the night? Why make that the hill to die on? Good Lord, coerce a 16-year old to sleep over? Why? She's old enough to make that decision on her own, isn't she? Wouldn't it be better to let her set the terms?
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 12:05 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
I agree if your DD is 16 why is she been made to go? Surely she is old enough to make that decision on her own.
Perhaps she is worried about leaving you alone? Perhaps she doesn't accept what WH has done?
My advice would be to get her into counselling, maybe her school can help you?
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
Sadmumma ( member #42192) posted at 5:07 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Hmm... Should she be encouraged to have a relationship with her father... Absolutely....
Should she be forced to sleep over.. No.. Give it time, let her build her comfort zone in his new life.... It will come. By pushing her into it you could push her away.
On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014
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