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better4me (original poster member #30341) posted at 9:02 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
I've been dating this new guy for about 7 weeks now. It's going well, we are still in the discovery phase and we are navigating the early dating waters pretty well, steering clear of the icebergs, changing course when we need to (thanks for that analogy cmego) etc. It is interesting to "date like a grown up" for maybe the first time in my life. I'm clearly stating my preferences and my boundaries and he is stepping up and honoring my needs and wants. Wow, what a concept. 
He admits to being an overthinker about relationship things, and while that is something that has the potential to be problematic, it is so like me too, that I can honor and be patient about it. When he apologized for over thinking, I told him about how I had been "wanting a guy who is introspective and analytical about interactions as I can be that way too" to which he said "Be careful what you wish for". 
Right?
Normal "getting to know you" stuff is what we are experiencing. Going slowly but not too slowly. He's attentive and shows that he wants to be in a relationship with me. He pursues, plans dates, pays for the meals, remembers what I've said. (I do all those things too in my turn as I am a modern woman ) We've begun to use terms of endearment with each other, which I really really like. It's going well and I'm happy
We live 40 minutes apart so have so far only spent one day/night a week together on dates. Neither of us have spent the night yet. We text every evening for an hour or so if one of us isn't busy doing something else. A text or two during the day is normal for us too. I am enjoying this phase as well as looking forward to spending more time with him as the relationship develops.
This weekend he is traveling to visit one of his dds who lives 6 hours away. He sent a text last night about midnight, after he got back to his hotel after spending the evening with his daughter; "It is interesting how just one night away can make you miss someone so much".
And that made me smile.
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 9:59 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 10:02 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 10:47 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 10:54 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 11:36 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
mixedemotions ( member #35810) posted at 5:20 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
Ahhh! Yay, this made me so happy. Good for you two! 
Me: Former BW, 28
Divorced 10/11/12
He didn't show up for the D...very fitting, seeing as he didn't show up for the M, either : )
"What did not demolish me simply polished me, now the clearer I can see" - India Arie
Hope4TheFuture ( member #25382) posted at 12:15 PM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
What a lovely post :)
I'm experiencing the same thing - it's wonderful, isn't it?
:)
Hope4
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