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4everfaithful83 (original poster member #41761) posted at 1:22 AM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Is this the right location for this post? If not, I apologize...
Hey guys - What can I do if I'm worried about an SI member that I haven't heard from, isn't responding to PM, and they haven't posted in over a month??
I know people come and go on here...just worried is all...
Any thoughts?? Thanks!
Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...
ME: 36
1 doggie
DDay: June 24th, 2013
DDay 2 : August 22nd,2017
Left him August 26th, 2017
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 1:26 AM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
I usually just ask, "Has anyone heard from XYZ?".
Who is the member you're worried about?
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 1:28 AM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
sometimes the mods will check to see when the last time someone signed on was. I think that's as far as they can go...
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
4everfaithful83 (original poster member #41761) posted at 1:29 AM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
haha I guess that makes sense!!
The member is SWANK. I haven't heard from her in over a month, and last we spoke she was leaving on vacation with her W...and that was a month ago!
She will probably read this and think I'm crazy, but I'm just worried for her. I think I watch too much 48 Hours Mystery. 
Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...
ME: 36
1 doggie
DDay: June 24th, 2013
DDay 2 : August 22nd,2017
Left him August 26th, 2017
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 1:49 AM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Swank last logged in on 3/31. Sometimes members are online steady for weeks/months, then take a break. Also, it depends on what else is going on in their lives.
4everfaithful83 (original poster member #41761) posted at 1:55 AM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Thank you Jo2Love!
The 31st is the last time I heard from her. I hope she is doing well.
Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...
ME: 36
1 doggie
DDay: June 24th, 2013
DDay 2 : August 22nd,2017
Left him August 26th, 2017
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 5:48 AM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
2 years ago I was absent for a couple of weeks and there was a most thoughtful concerned post asking if anyone had heard from me. My DD14 at the time had an emergency medical situation, then I dropped my phone in the toilet (I post on SI from my phone) so that's why I was gone. So maybe there's something going on that was unexpected. Hopefully she will be back soon.
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
Whatever13 ( new member #41468) posted at 12:25 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
I wouldn't be too concerned. I sometimes go months without visiting this site, then something throws me into a tailspin and I come back. In all honesty, my better weeks are the ones when I'm not staring at posts all night here. Not because I don't appreciate SI's function, but because my mind is elsewhere.
Me (BS): 27
Her (WS): 25
DDay #1- 6/09 PA
DDay #2- 3/13 EA
Still riding the roller coaster of ambivalent limbo.
WeepingBuddhist ( member #39139) posted at 2:20 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Glad I saw this today. I'm hoping someone can check to see if JerseyCowgirl has been on. It's been at least a couple of months since she posted in S/D and her last posts were pretty grim. Any word would be welcomed.
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
Mack9512 ( member #38619) posted at 2:53 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
JerseyCowgirl posted in S/D yesterday.
"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo
WeepingBuddhist ( member #39139) posted at 6:15 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
That's great! I'll send her a note.
thanks!
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
steadfast1973 ( member #24719) posted at 6:41 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Sometimes when things are going well in R (or S/D for that matter ) you have no need to post, or even log in... Often, as time passes, the lengths between log ins gets bigger and bigger. I hadn't logged in in like a year on dday2...
Me- 42- BS Him- 38- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 multi EAs, likely PA, trickle truth, d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute Separated 1/2017
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah"
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