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Wodnships (original poster member #42750) posted at 10:32 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Or maybe it just "is what it is."
On the way into work today I heard Cat Stevens "Wild World." The song had me thinking back to Dday and the couple of days I thought my wife was leaving for another man.
Here is the thing, I didn't feel sad or anxious or negative. I didn't feel good about it per se. I just thought about it and how appropriate the song was to that time of my life. and once the song was over went on with my day.
I'm really not sure what it signifies. It was just a little strange.
me: BH 37
Her: WW 29
Married 6 years. Dating 10. Living together 8.
If a man took his time on earth
to prove be for he died
what on man's life could be worth
I wonder what would happen to the world
- Harry Chapin
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 12:33 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Sounds like you may be getting a bit of a straight line on the rollercoaster. Not exactly up, but definitely not down. That's actually a good thing helps lead to acceptance, which is a step forward.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
still-living ( member #30434) posted at 12:18 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Progress my friend.. You don't forget, but the pain has been processed and it doesn't return.
I remember avoiding a parking lot where my wife had met the MOM. I would drive miles to avoid it. Four years later I actually parked in that parking lot with my wife to purchase an item from a store. I thought about the affair but did not trigger. There was no pain remaining to process.
kate0421 ( member #40819) posted at 2:42 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
I think it a positive sign. After dday there were soo many songs that would trigger me, sometimes I would just cry ( sometimes resulting in pulling over) and others I would be enraged with anger. Now I experience what you have explained and there are only a few songs that effect me, and they don't trigger me to the extreme anymore. Now I just might get a little sad inside but that's okay because it's an improvment.
ME: BW
HIM: WH
Together over 13yrs
2 children
DDAY 9/23/2013- 2 ONS (2009-2010)
TT. 5/14/2014- slept with OW1 twice
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