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I guess the crap that has gone down the last two days has jogged my 13 yr old son's memory.

A few months ago, my XH showed up at a school function my son was at. The kids haven't seen him in 2 years. My XH found out about it through his sister, who works at the school.

( My son doesn't attend that school now)

My XH had given his sister,who was also there, $20 to give to my son. After the tournament, my son went up to him, threw the money at him and told the ex he didn't want his dirty bribe money.

His sister and the new OW were there. Along with some of my friends and my sons friends and staff from the school. Along with hundreds of other people. The world now knows what a piece of shit parent my XH is.

I guess my son forgot about it in all the excitement of winning the tournament.

Not only is he awesome and sees through my XH's bullshit, I know I did a great job raising my amazingly, wonderful kids.

I told my son he did the right thing by not taking the money even though I am sure it was hard to give back. I also let him know how proud I am of him for doing the right thing.

[This message edited by peridot at 5:19 PM, May 13th (Tuesday)]

So...XH hasn't seen DS in 2 years and figures $20 will make up for that?!?

Oy!

I guess it's $10 for each year!

Gees, he's kind of overvalued himself, don't you think?

Gees, he's kind of overvalued himself, don't you think?

It may seem odd, by my son (26) has become my protector. He asks if his father has treated me well, when we must come in contact (which I avoid). He avoids him, too, which we have talked about. His reply is that when his father grows up, he may find him more interesting, right now, he's not worth knowing. This is better than, "I hate him". He has become a man in his father's absence, which lends credence to the saying that mothers raise sons.

Yes he is!

Gees, he's kind of overvalued himself, don't you think?

I think your son is awesome, too!

I think your son is awesome, too!! In a way it is sad but I love how that "event" wasn't even worth mentioning and barely remembered by your son.

Smashedat58: My son is 15 and has taken on the role of protector, too. It's not like I'm a damsel in distress so it always puzzles me why he feels like he has to protect me and our home.

Man, that is awesome.

I don't understand how dads can do that. When I was 7, my parents divorced. My father had every other weekend until something happened 1 1/2 years later and lost everything. He sent birthday (one year, got my age wrong) and Christmas cards, called once in my teenage years, but mostly talked to my mom. My dad died 2008. I found out because his GF of 18 years called me. He had cancer and did not get things straight before his death. She had some paperwork for me and my sister to sign. Of course, I was not interested in a trailer in Kansas City, MO, so we just signed off on it.

Peridot, your son is awesome. It is good to just keep moving. You did good, just like my mom. Keep it up...

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