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Divorce/Separation :
we just grew apart bla bla bla

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 karen49 (original poster member #18234) posted at 2:55 AM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014

Was just wondering if you think people believe,or care,when the ws claims " oh we just grew apart and I met someone.Just ran into an old acquaintance today,heard this story and it all sounded so far from the truth.,That is what he has told people ,(those close to me know the truth),just kind of walked away thinking....huh??? Even after all these years,an encounter like this still bothers me.

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risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 3:26 AM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014

I think they walk away shaking their heads in disbelief at the delusional idiot.

My x is in the process of contacting everyone we ever knew as part of a sales pitch for his new job. Is he an this clueless?

I no longer keep his secret life secret! My friends tell me about his calls and find it unbelievable but amusing.

The re-write is typical scumbag behavior straight out of the cheater handbook

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Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 2:41 PM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014

Mine says that also. Still to this day "its because we just are not what we use to be" The icing on the cake is that they don't ever look at all the selfish destruction that they placed on you, the marriage, and themselves.. all for a cheap ass thrill to build themselves up... but they will never build themselves up because they will never own what they have done and fix the broken pieces inside of them.

So they have to blame someone or something. It would be do horrendous to say " I am an adulter and I cheated my whole family and treated my wife like utter shit for years"

BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"

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Virginiagirl ( member #41656) posted at 2:52 PM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014

Yeah right, buddy. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

They do that shit because A) they want people to still like & respect them, and they wouldn't if they knew! And B) so they can convince themselves they aren't total monsters (they are!)

If anyone came to me with one of his "cover stories" (they haven't, but I'm positive he's spinning things that way) I would want to say just enough to let them know they don't have the whole story, while keeping to the high road so I don't go on a vent and make myself look crazy/bitter/whatever.

Fuck these waywards. They know what they did.

Me- BS-43
Him-WS-42
Married 15 years, living together 20
DDay May 2013
TT ongoing
2 kids, 11 & 15
OW- old girlfriend from High School.

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Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 10:50 PM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014

I don't know about you guys, but I don't believe in 'amicable' splits anymore. I just saw on the news where some pro-golfer called up his wedding to a pro-tennis player and he said, "It's mutual and I wish her the best, blah blah blah." You don't get to the point of sending out wedding invitations without someone being broken hearted when it ends. Or maybe I'm just cynical.

DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 12:23 AM on Thursday, May 22nd, 2014

Xpos is still telling that story too. Funny, I don't remember "we sat down, talked and decided we have grown apart and it's time to D". I've asked a few people what they heard about the D. If they say anything like that, I laugh. I'm not the keeper of his secrets. I was one of the last to know what he was doing and for how long (still don't really know) because I keep hearing about women farther back. I figure lots of them already knew because they saw him with women. If they didn't, I often tell them the truth.

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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