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Pudding (original poster member #37168) posted at 12:27 PM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014
I'm new on this forum having spent 2 years in JFO and R only to discover it was a waste of time, as they were still exchanging lovey dovey emails and who knows what else.
The lawyer sent the letter last night, so he should receive it when he gets home tonight. I have confronted him and told him and now of course he's shocked and upset and is beginning to do the work he should have done years ago. Too damn late,
Will be posting more here, when I get myself straight.
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 12:51 PM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014
Welcome, Pudding.
I'm sorry you need to be here and that R didn't go as it should have.
Let us know how we can help!
(((Hugs)))
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 1:50 PM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014
Welcome to this new section of the roller coaster that no one ever wants to ride. I view D as taking back control of your life. M and R both take two people to work. We all know what it's like trying to do it by yourself.
Some things you should be aware of now that you've filed.
1. According to a WS, it is now all your fault for giving up. Never mind the A or broken NC.
2. It is no longer about emotions. D is a business deal and you need to protect yourself.
3. We are all here to support you. While everyone's story is unique, odds are the someone somewhere can relate.
((Pudding))
DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:45 PM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
one2ndchance ( member #14759) posted at 6:18 PM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014
Because you've spent 2 years working on and hoping the marriage could be salvaged, he's been confident that you would always be around. Now that you've shown him you're done, you're going to see an array of tactics from him.
Fasten your seat belt because the roller coaster ride is about to get even wilder. How you tolerate the ride depends on your stamina and strength of your decision.
Married 26 years
DDay #1 2/2002
DDay #2 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/9/2014
It's hard to see the road ahead if you're always looking in the rear view mirror.
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