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TheGivingTree (original poster member #43672) posted at 11:17 PM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
I am sitting in a cafe in my work neighborhood waiting for a few sandwiches to take back to work for SFGary & me. I have been sitting here trying to calm down because I just got off the phone with a lender that I thought we were working with, who just now advised me that we aren't profitable enough to get the business loan we need in order to open up a second location. I was wallowing in self pity.
A very disabled man in a wheelchair approached me, and I thought he wanted to get past me, so I scooted my chair in. He was unable to talk, and it looked like he was only able to move one hand. He pointed to some french fries on the floor a few times. I still didn't understand what he wanted until I saw his glove on the floor. I walked over, picked up his glove, turned it rightside out, and then he wanted me to help him put it on. So I did. Afterwards he shook my hand four different ways. I went back to my table, and he went to leave. After he wheeled around my chair again he stopped at my table, waved at me, and left.
I had been sitting feeling sorry for myself, poor me. Business doesn't work quite right, marriage is a real challenge, kids are off from school and are fighting with each other a lot. And I have nothing to feel bad about. I have small setbacks, but will pull myself up, and move myself forward. I am very grateful that I am able to do this. I have no real adversity in my life. I just learned a very valuable lesson.
Me: FBW, 50. Him: SAFWH, 59
3 fantastic kids: DS 18, DS 17, DD 12
DDay 1: 1/8/13, multiple DDays with TT for an entire year.
Working hard at R. No, strike that. I give up. We're heading for D.
If all you wanted was love, why would you use
yewtree ( member #16671) posted at 11:25 PM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
And, in the middle of all that, you were able to step outside your grief, and help someone in need.
Don't be too hard on yourself. Just because your challenges may not be as troubling as his, they are still your challenges.
Just keep them in perspective. It will all work out.
Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)
Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 - No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 11:41 PM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
Awwwww... that's awesome! 
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 11:51 PM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
You were visited by what people call an angel. I'm so glad you received the message.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
luvbug0915 ( member #22934) posted at 11:55 PM on Tuesday, July 1st, 2014
"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 12:15 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Ah, yes.
Great post, thanks for sharing.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 1:12 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
You were visited by what people call an angel.
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Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 3:29 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Agree with SadinAz
Great that you saw the lesson, so many do not
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
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