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blakesteele (original poster member #38044) posted at 3:21 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
So Tuesday we leave as a family to a third world country for a humanitarian trip. Never done this before. Not church-affiliated, not group-effort...just my family. This charity was looking for a professional to donate their talents in a very specific area. My wife possess those talents. It works out well because myself and our girls are actually going to do the work the charity does. Yep, at age 7 and 10 they have an active, vital role in doing the work this charity champions!!!!
We have prayed on this and been planning this for 10 months. It is the right thing to do....we just know it.
Still, a part of me is anxious. We will be gone for 2 weeks. Wife and I have been to Germany, Austria and Switzerland before....but this is a third world country with our girls! I am trusting God will be with us.
Those who pray please add us to your prayer list until after August 8th....when we plan to return home.
This is unlike anything we have ever done...mostly excited, with just enough nervousness to be aware.
Thanks!
God is with us all.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 10:44 PM, July 18th (Friday)]
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
musiclovingmom ( member #38207) posted at 3:44 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
Blake, I think it is amazing that you are involving your children in service projects and that you are doing it as a family. What a great way to ensure that your daughters grow to be compassionate, involved women! I have friends who just moved their family (2 daughters, 5&6 and a new baby on the way) to Mozambique for the next 4 years. I admire people like you, and them, who have the courage and the resolve to go way out of your comfort zones in service of others. Best wishes to you all. I'll be praying.
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putonahappyface ( member #30269) posted at 3:45 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
I love that you all are doing this together, as a family unit! It's going to be an amazing, rewarding experience. Spread His light into all the corners of the world! Godspeed Blakesteele & fam, prayers going up!
[This message edited by putonahappyface at 9:50 AM, July 18th (Friday)]
BS (me) - 51; SAWH- 52 (hurtherbadly)
Married 28 yrs
2 DS - 21&17
Dday 6/4/2010. 2 EA/PA
11/15/12 update: discovered porn addiction
4 years out: M is strong; FWH is a new man :)
blakesteele (original poster member #38044) posted at 4:03 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
Thanks guys! This whole effort started 3 years ago and has been spearheaded by my wife. The evolution from a family vacation to this is really my wife's story to share. It is an amazing one. It is a blessing to be able to include our young girls. We are also blessed to be able to afford this. So many blessings........ya'll are a blessing to us too! Thanks for the support and prayers.
Comfort zone? Lost track of what one was!!!! 
I know the past 2 years have trained us to be handle lots of discomfort!!!!
Peace.
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
TheIrishGirl ( member #43496) posted at 4:19 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
Good luck! My sister just got back from a year in Malawi with the Peace Corps- she said it was challenging & amazing. I hope you and your family will say the same of your experience.
Me: 33, BW Him: 40, fWH
Together 11y, married 8
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email
Working on R, and it's working
DixieD ( member #33457) posted at 4:53 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
Sounds like a wonderful experience for all of you. Good luck on your journey and safe travels.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 6:18 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
Sounds like a terrific step in R. What a beautiful way to teach your kids about giving back. Saying prayers and sending good wishes for a safe trip.
Healinggirl ( member #39747) posted at 7:01 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
My daughter volunteers in a third world country and I went to see her for two weeks last November.
Believe me, being bitten by ants and the odd mozzie was no big deal after what I'd been through. (I'm simplifying here...). I realized how tough dealing with my fWH's affair had actually made me, I had grown into a very different person.
In fact, if I ever end up D, I'm going to join her. It's my plan 'B'.
So enjoy.........it's an amazing experience, both to help other people, but also to see how much you have personally grown..
[This message edited by Healinggirl at 1:03 PM, July 18th (Friday)]
Me 58
WS 58 Sexually abused as a boy
OW Prostitutes in double figures
OW Home wrecking, work-shy, gold-digging secondary abuser
D Day 11 November 2012
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:21 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
I wish you all the best. You're doing a great thing.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 10:04 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
brokensmile322 ( member #35758) posted at 10:18 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
Best wishes to you Blakesteele and family! Prayers sent. Godspeed!
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 10:34 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
prayers... your daughters will never forget this...
brokendancer7 ( member #39911) posted at 10:51 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
This is not analogous to your trip, but my FWH and I recently spent a week out of town engaged in an activity that totally absorbed all our time and attention. Somehow, during that week, I felt the first loosening of anger and hurt that I have felt since DD. It was great to be totally absorbed in something to the point that the A receded into the background for a while.
Safe travels, and I hope y'all have a healing and meaningful time as a family.
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 10:59 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
Safe travels. I think that you are doing a beautiful thing.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
peaceBmine ( member #44060) posted at 2:13 AM on Saturday, July 19th, 2014
Praying. Enjoy and know that you are making a difference.
Me (BS)- 42
Him (WS)- 44
Married 21 years
3 beautiful daughters (18,16,14)
DDay- 4/23/14- 6 month EA turned PA just before DDay
bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 4:42 AM on Saturday, July 19th, 2014
Traveling mercies! Can't wait to hear about it.
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
still-living ( member #30434) posted at 1:22 PM on Saturday, July 19th, 2014
Now that's a life changing family trip. Wish you well.
Neverwudaguessed ( member #41884) posted at 2:18 PM on Saturday, July 19th, 2014
What a life-changing experience for all of you: I can't wait to hear how it went!!! Good luck and enjoy.
BW: 46 Me
WH:50
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 14 1/2 years ago for 2 or 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 15
DD 13
ItsaClimb ( member #37107) posted at 4:05 PM on Saturday, July 19th, 2014
Hope you have a wonderful time blake, it's a great thing your family is doing
BS 52
Together 35 yrs, M 31 years
2 daughters 30yo(married with 2 children) & 25yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 3:14 AM on Sunday, July 20th, 2014
Prayers for a safe and peaceful trip, blakesteele. Something you will never forget!
LA
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
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