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Divorce/Separation :
the divorce diet

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 Numb2014 (original poster member #43919) posted at 9:57 PM on Wednesday, August 6th, 2014

Just weighed myself. In the past 30 days, I have dropped 15lbs. I'm not complaining. At least he was good for SOMETHING.

Heading to the gym. Gotta make sure I lose the remaining 20 the healthy way.

BW-me (31)
WXH-him (30)
DD-4, DS-14
High school sweethearts. 14 years gone. He doesn't even care. It meant nothing to him.
False R-3/2011 to 6/2014
Found evidence going back 2 years. He's moving in with OW.

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GotPlayed ( member #41294) posted at 10:13 PM on Wednesday, August 6th, 2014

Hehe I know. I was a healthy weight before and now I'm skinny again, like I was before I M.

I tried to bulk up and build muscle, but it didn't work out (or, rather I didn't work out)

Still, people tell me I look great, so it's all good.

Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
XBH and healing. D final March 2016
Her: Doesn't matter anymore.
DS13 Severe SN. DD11 Awesome

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HurtingandLost ( member #29322) posted at 10:17 PM on Wednesday, August 6th, 2014

Lol I went from 206 to 183 since July 5. Another 15 puts me at pre stressed out married to a lying cheating cake eating ww.

Fbh

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betraid ( new member #43915) posted at 12:11 AM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014

I've lost 32 lbs since June 9th and now weigh less than I did when I got married. Now I'm trying everything not to lose any more but it isn't working... reminds me of Stephen King story "Thinner"... maybe everything is happening because I'm cursed... sure feels like it.

Me:BS Him: WS-LTA 7+ yrs
Married: 19 years; together 28
DDay #1: 6/9/14 found out 1nt PA
3 wks of lies & 3 sessions of MC
DDay #2 6/26/14 found 7 years of PA/ EA & it continued past DDay #1
Divorced 6/15-still suffering PTSD

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id 6900450
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Futurefear ( member #43176) posted at 1:06 AM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014

Since Jan I've lost 40lbs. Now I'm pre-marriage, baby weight and he tells me daily how good I look now in my jeans, dressed for work, etc...gag.

I wanted to lose 40lbs before I turned 40 but not this way.

At least OW and WH have been good for something. I like to run and imagine their faces on the treadmill belt!

me- BW him-cheater (2 during our marriage, still with dirty whore)
together 10 yrs, married 7.5
kids- 2 DD and 1 DS
DD#1-Jan 2014,#2-2/2014, #3-3/2014
Filed 4/2014, divorce final 5/2015

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Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 1:11 AM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014

FWIW, I had that too...I lost 35 pounds.

Nowadays, I'm an over-eater and it's coming back. But, I tend to play the blame game too...this time I'm eyeballing my thyroid, lol.

My father and other people did too, it's too bad it doesn't stay off!

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

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betrayedpregnant ( member #43304) posted at 6:20 PM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014

LOL I guess I'm one of the "lucky" ones who actually gained weight. I'm15 lbs heavier than normal

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ncharge ( member #42365) posted at 7:58 PM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014

I lost 35 pounds. I'm still losing, but more slowly and since I started working out I look even thinner than my weight would indicate. NOT the diet I would recommend. Those first 35 were because I had no appetite and didn't sleep for weeks. But, it was a very effective diet.

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sunny58 ( member #43645) posted at 8:34 PM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014

I have slimmed down and look better than ever. I work out every day to relieve the stress and actually eat healthier. Nobody is aware of my situation but I'm always getting compliments now about how great I look. Only negative is I don’t get enough sleep but somehow I have the endurance to keep moving. This has really helped my self-esteem and I actually smile and feel happy from the attention I’m getting from others. Best of all… my WH has taken notice and he’s been stalling and doing his best to stop the D.

I don't need to seek revenge for his transgressions. My revenge is taking good care of myself.

Divorce Final - 9/25/2014

"The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies. It comes from friends and loved ones."

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kiki1 ( member #37184) posted at 8:51 PM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014

Numb

Good to see your getting some humor back!!

Hugs,,,,,,,,,,,,

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 Numb2014 (original poster member #43919) posted at 8:57 PM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014

Now all I've got to do is kicking this smoking habit! I am down to smoking just 1/2 cigarette, and I only smoke when the anxiety kicks in, which is basically every time I receive a text from him.

I am feeling better about me though :) I've been wanting to loose 30lbs for 3 years how. I lost about 200lbs when he left ( ), now to work on the remaining 15lbs, the HEALTHY way

BW-me (31)
WXH-him (30)
DD-4, DS-14
High school sweethearts. 14 years gone. He doesn't even care. It meant nothing to him.
False R-3/2011 to 6/2014
Found evidence going back 2 years. He's moving in with OW.

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LoveHerStill ( member #31504) posted at 11:02 PM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014

I lost 35 pounds in two months including muscle mass and was underweight and looked like a skeleton. My cloths hung off me.

Four years later I am at my ideal body mass index and have about 5% body fat. I have started exercizing more and am slowly building back muscle mass. Looking better every month.

Me BH-45 @ Dday
Her WW-44 @ Dday
Married-20yrs
Together-26yrs
D-Day 4/11/10
Divorced 9/13/2010
XWW Married OM 5/23/2011

It only hurts when I breathe.

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 1:41 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

I lost 15 kilos/33lb in a matter of weeks. Lots of women can do it but I looked like shit at 50kg/110lb. I looked like Skeletor. Everyone complimented me on how good I looked but I felt all dust and bones. I also have an innate distrust of skinny people.

A year later I finally started putting weight back on. I'm now back to my favourite weight for junk and for trunk.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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betrayedpregnant ( member #43304) posted at 8:00 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

Skeletor isn't that from He-Man? Thanks for bringing the memory of He-Man back to me.

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Thefly559 ( member #40268) posted at 11:45 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

down about 50lbs 25 the first week of d day!!!! lol yes that piece of crap was good for something

"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"

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ThrownAwayTwice ( member #43226) posted at 7:21 AM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014

I don't know how many pounds it works out to, never stepped on a scale. But I am down a dress size. All of my work clothes fall off. It's a nice excuse to refresh my wardrobe. But it's pretty irritating having to pull my pants back on every four steps or so.

BW early 30's

Separated March 2014
Kintsukuroi: the art of repairing broken pottery with gold and silver laquer, and understanding that it is more beautiful for having been broken

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betrayednewmommy ( member #27444) posted at 12:22 AM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014

I'm in the same boat. It's been a month, and I've lost 25 lbs (not counting his worthless 250 lbs). My best friend and I are hoping to start a yoga class after the kids start school again and we can all settle into more of a routine. I treated myself to a few new clothes this week since basically everything was starting to fall of me - boy, that made me feel great! Lots of people have been commenting about how good I look now.

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nolight ( member #32785) posted at 10:32 AM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014

Like kiki1 said, it's great that you are in a place to make light of certain aspects at least! I too lost weight during the initial phase, I didn't need to though and looked like skeletor. It was during the less acute depression phase that I started comfort eating which has become my go to emotional state

We make our own fortunes and call them fate, and what better excuse to choose a path then to insist it's our destiny.

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