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I haven't been around much lately. Was sort of feeling like I've spent too much time here and it was holding me back a bit.

I met someone online that I hit it off with, and had first date on xmas day. Went well and we've been spending a fair bit of time together last couple weeks. I'm taking it slow, but enjoy her company.

So... On to the funny bits. A friend of mine came across OM on the Bumble app. Trouble in paradise perhaps? I suppose it's possible it is an old account, but that app tends to cycle through the same people. In the last 6 months I've been on it too and come across various friends 3 or 4 times. This friend knows who he is and has never encountered him on it. Hmm..

Another female friend almost ran OM over around 10pm Friday night as he stepped off a roundabout into her path. She said he was smoking a joint walking towards the school near WW/OM's home. Not sure why as they smoke weed in their garage as far as DS told me. Maybr a pissed off walk? If she'd known before that it was him I don't think she'd have hit the brakes so hard. 🤣

Neither are major signs of the fantasy fading but they may be cracks in the facade. The funny part is I didn't really care when I heard nearly as much as I would have 6 months ago.

I thought they may be helpful to those of you in the early stages of all this shit. Not everything is as rosy as it appears.

Ha! Great Post! The Grass is not always greener on the other side!

Ironically I saw XWW’s profile on a dating app. I guess things with her 60 yr old OM “didn’t work out”. BIG SHOCKER! Lol!

I just really wonder what guy would actually stick around when/if she tells the REAL reason she’s divorced? (She was 35 and slept with a 60 yr old guy....and still works with him)

I dunno, maybe I’m weird but if a woman told me that story I would run as far away as possible.....but thats just me.

Glad to see you Suckanomore. Glad you met someone and glad you’re happy! Cheers to a great 2018!

Dup post

[This message edited by SuperDaddy1027 at 5:15 AM, January 15th (Monday)]

Glad your friend didn't mess up their car. That would have been disappointing. Heck, the pot head would have probably sued.

Glad you are doing well. Time definitely helps, makes it a lot easier to ignore the X's drama.

I'm guessing OM liked it better when he gave you the heavy lifting (meeting her emotional/financial needs) and he got the free, NSA sex.

Ex WW never really healed after DDay. She has had a few dates here and there, but relatively recently a mutual friend of ours confided in me that she was not doing well. Apparently she has been sporadically crying (esp during the holidays) and still wishes she could come back to me, more than 8 years out. She hasn’t been able to land a solid relationship since we divorced, and part of it is because she still claims to love me, which at this point i have accepted as true. Despite the anger and rage I felt towards her then, I can’t help but feel bad for her now. She knows my life has improved significantly since her in every way, and hers has just sort of trailed off into mundane mediocrity. My former in laws have reached out to me a few times over the years, ( I was always close to her father, we were like father and son) to ask me to try and help her. As much as it hurt me to let the old man down, I’ve always told him I respectfully want nothing to do with his daughter anymore, but wish her the best. He has understood every time because he knows she was a fool.

Hey Sucka!

GR8 News man! You deserve a good woman to pal around with. Glad you're taking it slow. I'd go Minnesota Molasses slow if/when I get to where you are in this rodeo.

I keep trying to remember that statistically increasing divorce rate with consecutive marriages, but that's just me.

...he was smoking a joint walking towards the school near WW/OM's home

Now THIS^^^^

They have drug free zones around schools here (like a thousand feet), and if they get caught with drugs in said zone, they get a new orifice burned into their mortal existence.

Goes to show OM MUST HAVE AN INCREDIBLE IQ! Let's hope the next paradise break he takes that a friendly LEO is nearby. Oh the beautiful Karma of it all.

You know, as much as I know it's wrong to wish pain or misfortune on someone- It sure as FUCK feels good when they get a bit of comeuppance.

There is a time when karma is anticipated and longed for. The truth is karma is often well, just sad. The rose colored glasses are gone and hope is dead and buried. I realized recently (due to his visit to the area) he really was my sixth child. He's gone to hell in a hen basket and while I didn't think he could get worse, he has. I literally feel bad for his new soul mate. She doesn't have half the spine I did and I didn't have enough spine to leave. Frankly it sucks to be them. Instead of us jumping in to save them from themselves, we resigned, sometimes popping popcorn and other times feeling bad because frankly, we are good people who do not actually delight in the demise of others.

The same friend who saw OM on bumble messaged me yesterday, she saw him again but was fairly certain he had newer pictures than the previous time. 😆

She swiped right on him as I asked her to if she saw him again, stay tuned to find out if he messages her. That's going to be a funny time indeed. She's a smart girl and will get gobs of evidence. Not for court as we are no fault divorce here, but to send to all WW's family who think this guy is Jesus reincarnated apparently.

Sometimes karma needs a nudge I think.

Glad things are going well for you. I've thought about looking for ex on dating sites under a fake ID, but it's not worth the time. Find it hard to believe she is being faithful, since she is unhappy.

I hear things from my kids. XWW doesn't seem happy (which I don't care about), but my kids don't like spending time at her place, as her new baby daddy is very controlling. Kids want to spend time with their mom, but he is so controlling it causes arguments and then my kids feel bad. I've told the ex how the kids feel, but it doesn't seem to have much effect. I expect when they are in high school they will spend most of their time with me.

I saw xWW on Bumble when I was still on. Her profile was weird. She talked about work and her fave drink. I find that odd. When I was OLD I just put divorced and Daddy to 2 beautiful kids. I dunno maybe its nothing but I just feel like u would be upfront that hey I’m divorced and I have 2 kids. Then let that strike up a conversation on the first date. At least thats how alot of my conversations started with women. Maybe she’s protecting the kids. I dunno. Even my GF of 4 months never met my kids. I will make sure something is healthy and Long Term before they meet my kids.

I’ve since removed my profiles from OLD. It just wasn’t for me. It felt like everything was too forced and desperate. I’d rather wait for something to come to me. Maybe that will never happen. And thats fine. I’m enjoying SuperDaddy time both alone and with my kids. I’m very much at peace.

I understand the whole Karma thing. But honestly Suckanomore. Why are u wasting your time with XWW. I’m not saying its wrong what you’re doing I just know when I saw XWW I looked ar her profile, pictures said “Hmmm” and swiped left. I felt nothing other than I was surprised she would do OLD. She always said it was weird.

[This message edited by SuperDaddy1027 at 8:44 AM, March 5th (Monday)]