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xLoveLostx (original poster member #63558) posted at 2:55 PM on Saturday, May 5th, 2018
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Followtheriver ( member #58858) posted at 4:00 PM on Saturday, May 5th, 2018
xLoveLosttx
I want you to know that you have been heard. As a FWW, I understand what you are going through and hopefully we can help you through this.
Take some time and read from the Healing Library up in the left hand corner. I found Joseph's Letter to be helpful to me. If you are able to write more of your story, it would help me to help you.
I am working right now but I will be back to help anyway that I can in just a few. You will get through this.
Followtheriver
Adotta ( member #63232) posted at 9:12 PM on Saturday, May 5th, 2018
Sometimes infidelity is just a deal breaker. Especially for men. It kills the special aspects of the relationship.
I just hope you don't blame him. Infidelity kcan strike a person to the core. You where only married a year and a half so I can only assume there are no kids. The short term of your marriage before your infidelity is also a kick in the nuts. At that point you should have been deep into love and the honeymoon period.... instead you cheated.
I don't mean to beat you up. It's just very hard to let go of all that. It was a very new marriage. It was smothered in its craddle.
Work on yourself. I assume you are still young. There is a whole world out there. Treat your next relationship better and work on you. Don't give up working on yourself and making yourself a safer better person to be with. It can only enrich and improve your life and the life of any SO of your going foward. This guy MAY have been special to you. There are other special people out there. It's not the end of the world. You can still find love
Just make sure to take care of yourself. Hydrate and eat well. Don't just lay about feeling bad for yourself. If you want to feel bad for yourself you can do it while working out or learning a new skill lol!!
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"Try to be better ever day is what I tell myself. Failing is ok. Just try harder tomorrow. As long as I make one step after another I can't help but be a great person eventually.... right?" -Adotta
FoenixRising ( member #63703) posted at 8:24 PM on Sunday, May 6th, 2018
Hello. WS here. What was your H like to you before you stepped out? Was he always hard on you? Or were you close and tender with one another?
BS/WW
Reconciling to live happily ever after in Recovery.
fighter76 ( member #57819) posted at 12:17 AM on Tuesday, May 8th, 2018
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xLoveLostx (original poster member #63558) posted at 3:56 AM on Tuesday, May 8th, 2018
FoenixRising we were very close and loving . He got angry at something he was working on , video games , and other people but never expressed much anger towards me .. Now he gets angry at me so quickly.. I feel like I'm always saying the wrong thing ... I just want to help him be happy .. I know the anger developed from me cheating on him .. I am forever sorry for that .
xLoveLostx (original poster member #63558) posted at 4:03 AM on Tuesday, May 8th, 2018
Fighter76 ... I know you are right ... having a affair is the most selfish thing you can do .. it has actually been 3 yrs since my affair and I know I should let him go ... We had a very amazing connection at the beginning our relationship and are still a lot of good qualities to our relationship besides my affair ...
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