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Nanatwo (original poster member #45274) posted at 2:24 AM on Sunday, November 18th, 2018
My H has not worked with the OW for two years - but a very good friend of ours still worked with her. They all worked for a small retail nursery and even after he quit we would still buy plants from them. She always had sense enough to disappear whenever we would shop there - but I would still catch a glimpse of her. Our friend did not know of the A for a long time - and he would occasionally mention her name in passing when talking about work.
The company is closing and today was their last weekend to be open. We stopped by to see our friend - my husband also wanted to say goodbye to a couple of other people he had worked with for years.
Our friend had told us several days earlier that she had already quit to look for another job. As we were leaving I felt a sense of relief and realized - she is finally, truly gone.! Even though he didn't work with her - there was still a small connection - working with our friend - seeing her when we would go there to shop. I didn't realize how much even these small things kept her in our lives.
Now she is completely gone - our friend does not know where she found another job - he now knows of the A and never speaks her name.
She is gone - she is just a nobody - she is no longer a part of this marriage - and I can finally put the thought of her to rest - she will no longer be a part of my thoughts - I have given her too much mind space in the past - even knowing she wasn't worth my time or thoughts.
Time heals what reason cannot. Seneca
First the truth. Then, maybe, reconciliation. Louise Penny
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 2:42 AM on Sunday, November 18th, 2018
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Oh, take it from me that knowing the OP is 'finally gone' is truly a wonderful state of mind! 
Finally gone....really gone... 
smy 
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
psychmom ( member #47498) posted at 3:13 AM on Sunday, November 18th, 2018
BS (me); fWH (both 50+; married 20 yr at the time; 2 DD DDay 1- 9/13/2014 (EA)- 3+ yrsDDay 2- 10/24/2014(PA2)-July'14-Sept'14DDay 3- 11/12/2014(PA1)-Oct-Feb '14Reconciled
ToABetter30th ( member #62752) posted at 9:41 PM on Sunday, November 18th, 2018
thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 3:39 PM on Monday, November 19th, 2018
Yes, place her far far away.
ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis
As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...
BrainFreeze ( member #61754) posted at 3:12 PM on Tuesday, November 20th, 2018
Very Nice!
I would have had such a hard time shopping where I knew the AP worked. Wow... good for you to have that strength.
BH 49, WW 47
Married 24 years, DS16,DD17
You all know.
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