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Cicinsajn (original poster member #60023) posted at 7:27 AM on Friday, January 4th, 2019
Best friend of my ex dont what to sey hello to me when we bump on the street..he just pretend that he didnt see me..it hurt me..i didnt do anything..why people are so mean...like im that cheat on him..
me:37
him:don't exist any more
English is not my native language. Please forgive any grammatical mistakes
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 11:59 AM on Friday, January 4th, 2019
Yes, I experienced this. It hurts and is awful. You will find out who your friends really are, and this person is not a friend.
Anyone that treated me like that i unfriended. I blocked them and went NC.
I am sorry.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
shakentocore ( member #46124) posted at 12:08 PM on Friday, January 4th, 2019
Sorry that happens to you!
This person is not and never will be your friend. Maybe they were involved in hiding the A from you and now feel embarrassed. Maybe your WH lied about your relationship. You’ll never know. Unfriend and move forward.
DDay - Christmas 2014. Working on R.
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 1:26 PM on Friday, January 4th, 2019
Remember your ex' best friend is getting your ex's version of the story! I am sure that tale he is telling is different than you version.
This sort of thing lets you know quickly who your real friends are. This person is not. He is your ex's friend.
Don't let it hurt you. His actions really are not about what you did or didn't do - that is on your ex.
bookworm19 ( member #54871) posted at 3:29 PM on Friday, January 4th, 2019
I'm sorry you have to experience this, but it's pretty common. Sometime people are to embarassed to talk to you face to face and they just avoid you. As others said, now you can see, who your friends are. This happened to me to after a bad break up many years ago, almost all our friends vanished, just poof! Many months later I bumped into a guy on a street, his friend, not mine, and he asked me about the breakup, what happened. I just said one simple sentence, which for him clarified everything and he said: I knew it, he tells a different story... Well, this was 30 years ago, but I still remember the feeling (not the exact words, sorry) of relief, that not everybody bught his perverted story. But even without this, I was fine, you will be too. It just takes time. Hugs
[This message edited by bookworm19 at 9:30 AM, January 4th (Friday)]
English is not my language, sorry for mistakes and funny words...
Cicinsajn (original poster member #60023) posted at 3:48 PM on Friday, January 4th, 2019
Thx,im angry,im the bad guy now after all shit im eating for 2years..grrr
me:37
him:don't exist any more
English is not my native language. Please forgive any grammatical mistakes
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 4:45 PM on Friday, January 4th, 2019
I am sorry to hear you’re hurting.
In my stereotypical middle child fashion, I cut them all off from my life before they could pick sides
I know, perhaps, I overreacted but I am not sorry I did
Needless to say, it was very hard
The ex person and I went to high school together and I sort of adopted all of his friends over time; thus, at 25 I found myself down to 1 friend. Yup, it was rough.
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 11:30 PM on Thursday, January 10th, 2019
It was clear to me pretty soon after I kicked XWH#2 to the curb who my friends were and who I had to detach myself from. I know it hurts, but it is really for the best. Who wants their X's friends anyway. I found out his best friend was more my friend than he was the X's. He hasn't spoken to him in years and doesn't plan to. His x-best friend's wife is my best friend and has remained so. I think it proved to me who had integrity and who didn't. It hurt at the time to lose some of our friends, but now I could care less. This too takes time.
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
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