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Noname2016 (original poster member #52245) posted at 6:42 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
I am feeling so so super low today.
I miss What I thought I had with him. I miss my life, my family (the four of us). And I am so much today struggling with the injustice of it all.
In my country, starting the D process takes a long time, which means long time before I would get any sort of financial assistance from him. In the mean time I appealed to him to help me with some money just because it is fair, just because these are his kids too. And his whole reply was so disgusting. Telling me how I had brought this hardship on myself and my family, how by colluding with the OBS against him I had destroyed any trust he had in me. Of how me and the OBS are the losers who are out to fuck with his head.
It’s not like I am hurt because of the things he said. I feel hurt because of the unfairness of it all. I am an imperfect human being, but I do not think I ever wished this for someone else what I have been going through. It is just so damn unfair and my heart is raging with anger and revenge. If only there was something I could do that would help me get back at him in some small way 😔
And it is just so sad, that life has come to this. To this much of hatred where I had so much love for him. 😔
Ugh. I just feel this immense sadness, so much that my heart feels like it is bleeding. 😔
Me: 35(BS)
Him: 36 (WH)
DDay 1: 2016
DDay 2: 2019 (Different OW)
cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 9:01 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2019
If only there was something I could do that would help me get back at him in some small way
Build yourself a good life without him. That's the best revenge.
I'm sorry you are hurting. It is unfair. There's no way you can go to court and get child support now? Have you talked to a lawyer about it?
Me(BW): 1970
WH(caveman): 1970
Married June, 2000
DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EA
DDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraph
Status: just living my life
Noname2016 (original poster member #52245) posted at 6:26 PM on Thursday, May 9th, 2019
Yes I keep reminding myself that being free of his bullshit is the best thing that could have happened :(
I have spoken to a lawyer and all the process will just take time 😕
Me: 35(BS)
Him: 36 (WH)
DDay 1: 2016
DDay 2: 2019 (Different OW)
1Faith ( member #38975) posted at 6:33 PM on Thursday, May 9th, 2019
It is very unfair and unjust.
I am sorry for you and your kids. Does he still see the children or has he totally abandoned you all?
Does he have family that will help support you? Your family?
Keep the focus on yourself and your children. That is what matters.
He is trying to justify his horrid cheating behavior. He betrayed you and more than once.
Do what you need to do to move forward.
(((good luck)))
Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for
Noname2016 (original poster member #52245) posted at 6:46 PM on Thursday, May 9th, 2019
1Faith - I got my kids and left the country to come back to our (mine and WH’s) home country. I thankfully have a lot of support from my family. Financially too. But I hate putting my parents through this at this stage in their lives. That too when he still claims he loves the kids.
His family is as fucked in their head as him. Apple hasn’t fallen far from the tree.
Me: 35(BS)
Him: 36 (WH)
DDay 1: 2016
DDay 2: 2019 (Different OW)
nekonamida ( member #42956) posted at 8:49 PM on Thursday, May 9th, 2019
Is the lawyer aware that you're not getting financial assistance and desperately need it? Are there government programs you can apply for in the mean time? Could you reach out to local communities for women and children, even churches, to get some assistance?
1Faith ( member #38975) posted at 8:55 PM on Thursday, May 9th, 2019
I am glad you have the support of your family. I am sure they are relieved that you are out of the toxic situation.
You can't change him, he has to want to change. So no more emotional energy allotted to him.
Forward to getting you back on track and stability for your children. Talk to other attornies just to get other opinions on your options.
You can find your way back to happy. You can.
(((hugs)))
Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for
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