Any time we experience loss we will cycle through stages of grief. Whether we cycle through all 5 stages or only a couple. Also, sometimes we can get through to acceptance in a matter of seconds, sometimes it can take years.
Grief is messy under these circumstances. And especially early on I added guilt/shame into the mix. So my grief was filtered through that emotion. And it makes sense that anger and bargaining took up a lot of room for me. And once I exhausted myself with those emotions it gave way to sadness and depression. Wash rinse repeat.
Part of that guilt too was feeling confused by how much my own actions inflicted such pain upon myself, and that I shouldn't be feeling that way. But loss is loss no matter how it comes to be, even at our own hands, humans aren't taught the grief process, it's just there inside us. Its healthy and a process we owe ourselves to make it through and land on the other side.
In my experience, because there was no need for denial in my grieving process, I was able to accept my reality like instantly, which is half the battle. But acceptance was always short lived for me, as an emotion. I know it lived in my subconscious and therefore had an impact on my daily struggles to let go of my attachments to any given thing. Such as the things you have listed. Gosh the loss of respect and adoration was a hard one.
I sometimes had to actively call on the acceptance and letting go. Pulling it to the forefront and living there until I felt a sense of peace again.
And one last thing, I learned that acceptance doesn't mean being over it, or good and happy feelings. It also doesn't always mean your grief process is complete. I think we have to completely and thoroughly work through each step (even if it takes a couple cycles, and it will) before we can complete our mourning.
I hope this helps some.
