Lostinastorm (original poster new member #85199) posted at 9:41 AM on Wednesday, December 31st, 2025
Hi, I am a new poster here and really need some advice. DD was July 2024 and my BS and I decided to try and reconcile.
The trouble is my BS feels I should satisfy him sexually no matter what and even if I don’t want to. He said if I’m on my period I should still look after him. If I’m not feeling well or simply not in the mood he says we we are done then as you did it for him so why not me.
My BS tells me he wants to feel loved but it seems the only way I can make him feel really loved, is to perform oral sex on him and in his words tell him how beautiful and fit he is.
I don’t know what to do. I’m perimenopausal and my hormones are all over the place and sometimes I just want to chill out with a heated blanket on my stomach with the pain. Whereas he will grab a shower, come and lie next to me and then go off in a mood because I’ve not leapt on him.
Any advice would be appreciated. We’ve had no counselling, just tried to get through.
Lostinastorm (original poster new member #85199) posted at 9:52 AM on Wednesday, December 31st, 2025
I meant to add I am still getting used to the terminology. I am female, partner is a man and we are not married.
