I don't think I've posted any updates since May of 2025. I felt like the QUEEN of LIMBO on here.
Well I'm relieved to say I'm finally not in limbo. We were officially divorced on Friday the 13th (2/13/26).
So I'll be moving over to the appropriate thread likely soon.
I just couldn't do limbo any longer and had to put us out of my misery and decided to move forward with the divorce. I was in serious limbo for 2 1/2 years post DD. I even went as far as becoming a mad hatter to escape the limbo (VERY effective NOT recommended).
Eventually my body said NO so loud I had to listen, I couldn't ignore it.
My head was in constant limbo, body was leave, heart was stay.
I cried a lot for a couple of days and then I have been distracting myself with all the divorce "stuff/legal/accounts/etc." and keeping extremely busy. I have the dog and house and 18 year old at home till college in the fall. Ex has moved to an empty apartment and is struggle. The absolute worst is knowing he is there alone now and really struggling. That part kills me.
I have not begun to really grieve for myself yet. We were together for 36 years, married for almost 32 years. I have never known anything else, we were just kids.
Despite the pain of limbo I'm so glad I had that time. I actually did some great work without realizing it. I was able to let go of my resentment and forgive. I'm so happy and grateful for that. My hope is we can remain great friends, with some time and distance first.
I have a feeling I will need to post more as the dust settles and I accept the reality. For now, I'm working and staying very busy.
I can't thank those who replied to my posts enough, so incredibly helpful....sisoon, superese, and HIKINGOUT to name just a few.
