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I dont need to direct him to any support website. I know my son is capable of knowing What to do when the time comes. He's an adult. I raised him to trust his gut on things.

You're going to let it play out? She asked for time to end it her way?? She's had five years!!

Your loyalty lies with your daughter's best friend,not your own child.

By keeping silent, you're protecting the affair.

The member who posted the story is thehatedone. The poor guy was horrified to find out his mom and sister knew. It caused him great pain.

I would look up the thread for you,and bump it to the first page of the JFO forum, but that would be more effort and care shown towards you than you've shown your own son.

Letting it play out is giving her more time to expose him to crotch rot, the many forms of which run rampant amongst people who bump genitals with multiple people.

The member who posted the story is thehatedone. The poor guy was horrified to find out his mom and sister knew. It caused him great pain.

I would look up the thread for you,and bump it to the first page of the JFO forum, but that would be more effort and care shown towards you than you've shown your own son.

The OP of this thread is not going to care about someone else's pain because HER DS is a big boy and she raised him to trust his gut. Either his gut has been lying to him for 5 years or somebody else he trusts (like his gf, mother and sister) have all been lying to him for 5 years and he has not yet figured it out.

If this person is for real, she clearly cares more about her DD, the DD's friend, possibly the boyfriend of this cheater, far more than she cares about her own DS. She may even suspect he won't ever speak to her again when this comes out, but if any of this is true, she does not care if he does not speak to her and is quite comfortable having her loyalties lie with the DD and her BFF.

I just don't know why she came to this forum other than to stir some pot. It is certainly not because she experiencing turmoil about her DS being cheated on.

I SERIOUSLY thought my mother in law was the WORST mother in the world....

Apparently she is the Second.

Furst of all I dont feel any "turmoil" OKAY??

I Just talked with some other people on a different forum telling me it's better to keep out.

Everyone is so judgemental in her WTF???

I'm trying to resolve in my head which is worse?.....

A mother that would not support their own child in this situation,.....

OR...

Someone who would invent said situation, and post here, obviously aware of the triggers/impact it would cause others. A bit of entertainment at the expense of others.

I can't decide.

I Just talked with some other people on a different f

I doubt you have ANY replies encouraging you to "stay out of it". There is sufficient evidence to the contrary.

Regardless, you have made up your mind.

So, why are you here? How can we help you?

Of course we're judging you. We care more for your son than you do.

I'm too old to be making stuff up. Thank you

So, how can we help you?

Furst of all I dont feel any "turmoil" OKAY??

I get that. It is exactly what I said. You can call it judgement if you want, but I went through watching my DS being cheated on and I think it hurt me just as much as when my own XH and H cheated on me! I just can't imagine acting like nothing is wrong, interacting with the woman cheating on him, day after day for 5 years if you actually loved your DS at all. Yeah, even if by some notion you thought it was morally better to stay out of it, I think a caring mother would at the very least feel some Turmoil and most of us come to this forum because of devastation, desperation or turmoil, none of which you seem to be experiencing. So why are you here?

Another reply I got

Dear Susan: We understand your concern, but you are already overly involved in your son’s messed-up relationship. Please don’t put evidence in front of him, forcing him to confront a situation he is trying to deal with in his own way. The very best thing you can do is encourage your son to get his family into counseling.

I just wanted to hear other people's thoughts on my situation that I in

"Thehatedone" posted on the JFO forum a story in which the facts, situations, and even the names of the posters are very similar..... must be a lot of similar things going on out there! Worriedone72, I would suggest that you read that post, and see the outcome of that situation.

[This message edited by skerzoid at 10:21 AM, September 17th (Sunday)]

How exactly is he trying to deal with it in his own way if he doesn't know she's cheating on him? How is he supposed to know they need counselling if he doesn't know she's stabbing him in the back?

Another reply I got

Dear Susan: We understand your concern, but you are already overly involved in your son’s messed-up relationship. Please don’t put evidence in front of him, forcing him to confront a situation he is trying to deal with in his own way. The very best thing you can do is encourage your son to get his family into counseling.

It sounds to me like you told a different story on a different forum to get that reply.

I can only vaguely detect you are involved in being on the SIDE of his GF more than your DS and that might be why somebody thinks you are "too involved" in this messed up situation. They way you told your story here, I don't think anybody is going to be empathizing with your decision to go for 5+ years acting like nothing is wrong, in effect lying and betraying your DS, protecting his cheating GF the whole time.

BOBBIE SUE. Maybe you're right.

Hey, fellow members, I know it is "fun" to jump in on a thread like this. I didn't read most of this, skimmed over posts to know they were all the same in not supporting this lying mother. Read all Worriedone's post. Worriedone72 has made her position clear. She is fine in decieving, lying to and betraying her very own son. The son that everyone in his immediate circle has betrayed. My heart aches for this young man. I wish I could be his Mama, he needs one. The one he has has a very skewed view on what a Mother's job is. She isn't going to change position.

My suggestion is to leave this thread, stop giving Worriedone72 attention (as this is all about her, obviously), we aren't making any difference. We can not insert "empathy" into her for her son when it seems she is incapable of ever having that.

Meanwhile, there are real people with real pain languishing on their threads. Lets let this lady wallow in her own weirdness and go where people will welcome our support and need it. This lady doesn't need our support or advice, she came here with an agenda, whatever that was.

So, you really want to shut this unfeeling/cold hearted lady down? Lets shut this thread down by not responding. Let me be the "ThreadKiller".

ETA: BTW, Worriedone72, in case you are truly worried (you should be... for your soul), here is the link to the thread started by Thehatedone: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=610515&HL=60356

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 11:23 AM, September 17th (Sunday)]

Sistermilkshake. GTFO