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NoOptTo ( member #62958) posted at 4:57 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2019
Guil,
How are things going? Hope your finding some clarity with your decisions your making. Wish you the best.
Guillermo (original poster new member #71109) posted at 5:37 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2019
NoOpt,
It’s been rough. Still waking up with despair in my heart.
She’s been all over the place. Accusing me of cheating, telling me that she’ll do anything to save our marriage, getting in my face.
Then there was the issue with the AP1 leaving shit at my house. He finally vacated everything, but now if he contacts me again, he’s getting a restraining order. I told him what he did was horrible and wrong, he said my wife is lying about their affair. I told him to explain his side of the story and he talked in circles and then blamed me for miscellaneous nonsense. The true mark of a narcissist. He’s the only one skipping away from this nightmare totally Scott free. He’s also the one that is just as responsible for this mess as my wife is.
This man has caused me so much pain and grief, I can barely think straight. My wife’s punishment will be to lose me.
NoOptTo ( member #62958) posted at 6:52 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2019
Unfortunately you were not married to POSOM. It's your WW that made a commitment to you. As much as the pain hurts of both of them together over time in your own house is, she is the only one that is answerable to you. As you have said, she is losing you now. Hope you are using 180 as much as possible with your WW. Only talk to her with concerns of the children and your D. The more you detach, you get to observe her actions. Is she still in save her ass mode not? Is she still blameshifting or stonewalling you? Is she becoming remorseful through her actions and not just words?
Continue to worry about yourself and your children only. Your WW is a grown woman and can fend for herself. Her actions have already stated that she rather have fun with others then with you. Keep reminding yourself of her actions both before and after Dday. You will.figure out your path soon enough.
On a side note, hope your enjoying the cooler weather in our area.
NoOptTo ( member #62958) posted at 6:52 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2019
Double post
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Guillermo (original poster new member #71109) posted at 1:03 PM on Tuesday, August 27th, 2019
She has been blame shifting and today is stonewall Tuesday. I flipped out on her last night, nothing violent, but basically that she destroyed our lives and all to get attention.
The best part is I gave her a lot of attention, but I’m also not insecure. I should say, I wasn’t insecure.
Now my whole life is in the grip of doubt.
I still cannot believe this happened to me and my kids. I was such a blind fool.
Candyman66 ( member #52535) posted at 1:53 PM on Tuesday, August 27th, 2019
Guillermo, I have just skimmed through your posts so I may have missed this but, has anybody else mentioned that you CAN SUE THE COMPANY because he was her supervisor!!!! Talk to a lawyer that specializes in this field. You MIGHT also be able to sue him! 
That should go along way toward lifting your spirits AND making him (at least 1 of them) pay.
JMO YMMV
Guillermo (original poster new member #71109) posted at 2:41 PM on Tuesday, August 27th, 2019
Candyman, trust me, this has crossed my mind.
The two of them have caused me so much harm. It’s affecting my work, friends, family, everything. I cry every night. I even wanted to off myself at one point, but I’m not that selfish.
Meanwhile, that cocksucker got off Scott free.
My whole life has been destroyed by this motherfuckers actions.
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