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USMC-Wife ( member #23179) posted at 6:25 PM on Wednesday, September 8th, 2010
I agree with those who say write to your hearts content. But do NOT send it! I've actually written several and posted one or two here. It was very helpful. I've written letters and burned them, flushed them down the toilet, ripped them up and put them in the cat box..all very therapeutic.
What I found is that they just wait and wait for a reaction. If you're reacting then they still have power. Don't give away your power. It's yours. Take it. Keep it.
09/07/09-Today we reclaim our Marriage. Working on Forever.
09/07/10-We're thriving!
Buckeye Wife ( member #28702) posted at 12:30 AM on Thursday, September 9th, 2010
I did call the OW -- 6 months after DDay and NC from FWH.
I often think that talking to the OW is the only way I will really find out how serious this was between them.
I had hoped to get her to confirm husband's version (foolish, yeah, but I am honest to a fault!!). She lied, threw him under the bus, and was completely freaked out by my call.
It was freeing for me. I was calm, polite, and honest. She said she hoped I'd forgive her, but I didn't give her that reassurance.
Still have never seen her & that bothers me. I know it will hurt to see her, but I want there to be no secrets between them. Silly, probably, but that's how my mind works.
BS (Me): Forties
FWS(Him): Forties
Married over twenty years
DDay: 1/20/10
R'ing
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