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Understanding I haven't read any of your other posts it seems your WH is pretty non-chalant about this stuff, not saying he should have lied but if he's not feeling terrible about your feelings he's a real SOB.

Futurechanged - I think the problem there is just my writing style. I'm a little angry and it makes my sarcasm, etc. start to show, which probably makes my husband sound like a real ass who just nonchalantly announced this anal sex thing. In reality he's hugely sorry for what he did, and I'm sure he'd prefer not to talk about any of it, because it's incredibly uncomfortable for him....but he knows that if he won't answer my questions I am gone. I told him I didn't want to know any sexual "details" (i.e. I don't want a play-by-play description of their sexual encounters), but if I have a general question about it, I want him to answer it, and I want him to answer it honestly. They were together for a month in a foreign country (she lives there, he was traveling for work) and had unlimited privacy/access to her home and his hotel room....so it's not like I can kid myself and say that they must not have had time or opportunity to do such-and-such. I'm glad he was honest with me, and I'd expect him to be honest with me if I asked him more questions in the future. After I asked him about the anal, I was angry and I did initially ask him to tell me whether it was the greatest feeling ever....he paused, I rethought it, and decided just to ask him if it's something he can live without in his sex life because I am NEVER going to do/enjoy it (he said yes he can definitely live without it).

I am college educated, beautiful, funny and guess what... I enjoy anal.

Harlowe - I apologize if my post sounded critical of people who do enjoy anal....I didn't mean it that way. It's just not for me. And it's something that OW did for WH, so I'm a little testy about the topic right now. Honestly she could have made tunafish for him (something else I don't like to do) and it would probably also bother me!

Please just mentally superimpose a visual of an asshole over her face. That's what she is. An asshole.

Painpaingoaway - I love that

Maybe the whore only did anal because he told her that you dont?? So that she could look more exciting in your WH's eyes??

Ongelikkig - I hope so....for some reason that makes it more palatable than if she actually enjoyed it.

tmi and gross, but I can't let a myth be stated and propogated without refuting it with scientific truth.

Most people's anuses are cleaner than their mouths.

This statement is simply not scientifically true. In Human Gross Anatomy lecture and then in dissection class at University, I remember the professor making a point to tell the class that the colon is the most bacteria laden organ in the body. Bacteria have been feasting on decaying food for days and multiplying as the decaying matter and bacteria passes through the alimentary canal, and the colon is the last part of the intestines, ending with the anus. The rectum/anus comes in contact with feces as it leaves the body. There are folds in the colon and anus and you cannot get them 100% clean no matter how much one washes. Alcohol or a sterilizing material would burn like heck and still not get the job done.

Te mouth is also bacteria laden, but not as much as the colon and rectum/anus.

I belong to the camp that does not enjoy anal. As for anal oral.... I am the one that washes FWH's underwear, I will pass on that "delicacy". He probably did all that when he was screwing OW. I bet she got some sort of bacterial infection, since he has no respect for the order in which anal sex should progress, then again, maybe she didn't practice wiping front to back so maybe she built up a tolerance to poop.

Not meaning any disrespect to people who enjoy anal sex, but I have no desire at all to let anyone near my butt.

Furthermore, I think 20 or 30 years from now we're going to be seeing an awful alot of senior citizens having serious rectal troubles because they're using this orifice for something in which it WASN'T intended.

Yeah, I figure Glitterpig does this for STBXSAWH so tht explains it.... and I am triggering now.... ugh...my own fault...

Anal? nahhhh

I like doggie.

There. I said it.

I read where she is from Brazil?

Anal to Brazilians is like normal sex......I dunno what it is about them. Had a Brazilian friend and he states that all of his partners but one since he was 18 has wanted or offered it.

Poop stinks. Poop goes out of the anus. The anus is dirty. Period.

It is an exit orifice.

I agree with whoever said that in 20 or 30 years we're going to be seeing a lot of folks with rectal problems. I have one friend whose husband was SERIOUSLY into anal. She ended up with a rectal hernia and had to have surgery to fix it.

Just google:

Rectal prolapse

Rectal hernia

I have another friend who is into it as well ad she farts constantly. I think her anus is worn out and not tight enough to hold them in. She also constantly gets UTIs. Ick.

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I read where she is from Brazil?

Anal to Brazilians is like normal sex......I dunno what it is about them. Had a Brazilian friend and he states that all of his partners but one since he was 18 has wanted or offered it.

I can't wait till he goes to the Middle East for work.

None of this hanky-panky there, or they'll stone him....

[This message edited by MFC2011 at 4:49 PM, March 16th (Friday)]

She probably did it because he said you wouldn't. Period.

Me personally I do enjoy it. WH seriously had sex everyday at least. We were into some interesting stuff. He cheated and told her he didn't want to be with a freak like me.

He wanted someone different, a jobless whore who wouldn't do anything other than missionary was certainly different.

I think these women will do anything to sink their teeth into a MM that they compromise their own morals. She wanted to one up you. But intimacy is so much better than meaningless sex.

Very sensitive area

I like it but not often. Maybe in the bathtub and just a finger. Always on my terms. Clean and wet bubble bath moments.

Once a year or so. Husband is not at all into it unless i ask. For me. I would be creeped if he wanted it.

Has he asked you in the past and you denied? I would be pissed if he used that as a "you wouldn't do it but she did" tactic.

Just wondering why you would ask that.

I can't wait till he goes to the Middle East for work.

None of this hanky-panky there, or they'll stone him....

MFC2011,

I don't want to put toughts in your head, but you don't have the proper information for the Middle East. My husband's affair happened there. With a real whore! It is full of old chinese bags. I was thinking like you and was shocked to find out that the prostitution is business as regular overthere,easily accessible. Average age of the practicing whores is 40-45 as a single woman can not get a visa if she is under 35, they are ugly, hardly can speak English, but because the ratio women:men is soo off they are accepted as "ladies". If he is going there alone for real, keep your guard high.

If it is a jocke, i used to use that one while he was there, but now I know the jocke was on me.

Has he asked you in the past and you denied? I would be pissed if he used that as a "you wouldn't do it but she did" tactic.

Just wondering why you would ask that.

Yeah, he has. I've told him it's not something I enjoy or am particularly interested in "learning" to enjoy. I don't mind him feeling around back there, but hell no he's not sticking anything IN.

I asked him after we had sex the other night.

He did NOT say anything along the lines of "you wouldn't but she did", however. Which is good, because I probably would have ripped HIM a new one. He only talked about it because I specifically asked him, and it was just a brief answer....I asked if they did it, he said yes, but just once. I asked him if he could live without it (since I will never enjoy it) and he said yes definitely.

If it is a jocke, i used to use that one while he was there, but now I know the jocke was on me.

Yes, I said the Middle East thing in a joking manner. I'm aware of what goes on; he's been there twice before (back when he wasn't cheating on me yet).

He could cheat on me in any country he wanted to, whether he was traveling or local....his physical location makes no difference. It's his heart and boundaries that need to be in the right place.

Just throwing this out there...might not stick at all.

My fWH did weird stuff that we have never and will never do too...I asked the IC and she said it was "performance sex". No intimacy or love just the act.

Painpain hit on this too.

Most likely it was "porn-star wannbe" mentality at work. (Most of these women don't have a whole lot else going for them, KWIM?)

The OW wicked bitch thought she was a sex goddess It was all just a big fantasy of hers.

I also think its an exit not an entrance. My WS has a new zest for the butt. After seeing that the OW sent him a pic of her big brown eye, I have to assume that he's been in it. I swear I want to dip his dick in Clorox right now. WS looks at ass porn all day, every day, in addition to wannabe porn stars xxx pix. Thanx OW for unleashing the ass monster, but he's not touchin my butt. Just thought of the best Karma....fecal leakage and a blown out gaping asshole by the time she's 50...YES thats IT!!!!

An awful lot of moron men are seeing porn where EVERY woman is begging for a huge penis shoved in her ass, to be blunt. Oh - and all women squirt now too. Ain't it odd that you never saw women squirt from clitoral orgasms 20 years ago, but now suddenly - they ALL do it? It's a conundrum, indeed.

Good Christ.

Most of these idiots watching today's porn are assuming women are really like that. The dumbasses tend to forget that women are being paid handsomely to pretend to love it. Sorry SI men, but your peers can really be dumb as a box of rocks most of the time.