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ungracie ( member #31901) posted at 11:10 PM on Wednesday, April 4th, 2012
When we discuss "weakness" in R, the most relevant ones are the weaknesses in the WS that allowed them to chose an affair over a myriad of other options.
As a BS, I find that my greatest challenge is actually incorporating fully that my husbands choices reflect solely on him and don't say one blessed thing about me. I think its because for so long its been standard practice to blame the betrayed as having partial if not full blame. I see it here often in first posts from WS, of having felt this or that was lacking in the marriage. Unless this is quickly addressed, I don't feel true R will ever happen. As the WS doesnt delve any further.
Gender, smender. We all feel pain, humiliation and disrespect. Its who we are as individuals that determine how we process, grow and find peace.
Me:50BS
married 26 years
together for 29 years
DDay:04/12/10 EA/PA
Working at R
The most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love and to be greater than our suffering.
Ben Okri
GeauxTigers ( member #28301) posted at 1:24 AM on Saturday, April 7th, 2012
This is a great thread. Cee's "sheild arm" post has always touched me, UO makes a great post as usual, and BlueCali's post was just beautiful. Thanks everyone! 
Sigh... how did I end up here?
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